Should I tell her about my sexual inexperience?

HxiPxllxi · 2017-11-20T15:50:07+00:00

That's not a good idea. I mean why would it be good? It depends on the woman's personality, if she has a nice enough mindset she'll teach you. Or she can be put off by what you said. I wouldn't be willing to risk it.

Is this because you worry about your sex skills? To be a "sex master" you just need to know what you're doing, it's not about numbers. Quality over quantity. If you're inexperienced just read educational articles and videos on what you're worried about.

carterworld · 2017-11-20T14:04:58+00:00

Fake being a master. Girls don't wanna teach you, they want you to take control.

Don't sell yourself short. 4 is enough to be experienced.

recyclablebanthas · 2017-11-20T16:06:55+00:00

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Should I tell her about my sexual inexperience?

Think about who this little confession would be for. It would be for you, looking for validation about your fear that you will be disappointing.

This being the case, the only person you need to work with, is yourself. Leave her out of it. Dragging her into your own personal issues and self-therapy, will only kill the vibe.

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So I only got laid with 4 girls in my entire life.

What the hell, man? Your worry is usually reserved for virgins, and it's not warranted even then.

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Sometimes I think it would be better to tell a girl I'm about to have sex that I'm not very experienced so she can "teach" me.

Here's the thing. If you get a girl right up to the point of sex and then dump your issues of insecurity on her, you might as well forget about having sex.

You're thinking too much. And that will kill the vibe. This is like if someone's trying to enjoy a good meal and you keep interrupting them to talk about quantum dynamics. People just want to FEEL during sex. They don't want to think. Or worry.

And this confession of yours would qualify as worry.

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Is that a good idea? Should I fake I'm a sex master and then maybe "disappoint" her?

Neither option you've supplied really works.

Your insecurity about your "inexperience" is your business to take care of. It's not on her to make this feeling go away.
And faking that you're sex master, depending on what you mean by this, could be a terrible strategy. If you mean faking confidence, then YES, this is good. If you mean faking that you know what you're doing, then no.

The real answer here is that you need to realize that every person out there is different in bed, and that everyone goes into their first time with a new girl, kind of like a virgin. Every time a new couple comes together, they need to feel their way through it; it's not like there's a "right" set of things to do. Every person has to pay attention and "plug in" to the other person and then feel their way through and pay attention to the reactions of the girl as they do stuff.

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So if you've gotten laid at all, you have more than enough points of reference to work with. But just in case, you might make sure you look up the following:

The location of the clitoris.
The location of both female and male g-spots.
General theories on oral sex.
Different sexual positions.
The different male and female orgasms. (We each get at least two different kinds.)

Title	Should I tell her about my sexual inexperience?
Author	surinam_boss
Upvotes	6
Comments	11
Date	November 20, 2017 1:25 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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