Hey all,

23 year old male here, I have never really been very great at talking to girls. I've always gotten super anxious whenever it involves any type of intimacy. If I'm talking to them as if they are friends or whatever I have absolutely NO problem. But whenever it gets to anything more I feel super uncomfortable. Intimacy has always been a huge problem for me.

I've had 3 LTR in the past but due to my struggles with intimacy, none of them have been very fulfilling. Same with my sex life, that inability to really open up and enjoy the moment has wrecked havoc on that aspect.

I've recently started seeing a therapist to deal with my self-esteem issues and my fear of intimacy/connection. But regardless of that, do you guys have any tips on where I could start. I often go out with friends and there have been times when I somehow randomly start flirting without even really noticing. There have been some successes(just with flirting) never really escalated much further.

I realised it's time for me to learn what to do and stop living so down in the dirt. Thanks guys!