Went out with a girl a few times. Not sure how to proceed after some silence. Do I text her? If so, what do I say?

Bandana-Bandit · 2018-01-04T01:16:04+00:00

I'd honestly say try one last time before you cut her off, things aren't always as simple as we like them to be, i was in a similar situation a while back and the girl was just avoiding me because she had a sti scare and didn't want to embarrass herself.

2018-01-04T01:01:30+00:00

bitches be flakey

PotLimitOmaha · 2018-01-04T01:11:04+00:00

I'd say let her go and not worry about it. If she wants to text you she will, but if you text her now you might come off as needy. It's been long enough where the flame is probably gone. Learn from your mistakes and move on. You can't change her but you can change how you can interact with women. Hope this helps

ImUglyImDumb · 2018-01-04T00:30:36+00:00

I’m in somewhat of a similar predicament. So I would be interested in anyone’s advice here also.

Sorry I couldn’t add anything of value brother, but maybe the fact that we are both going through a similar endeavor will give us some solidarity haha

2018-01-04T03:09:38+00:00

Sometimes its better to drop the "man" act and swallow your pride. I was talking to this one girl and she went complete 180 on me for no reason, cold af. I asked her about it and she said its that she's been stressed, etc, made no sense to me at all but I went along with it. I learned that woman are much more effected by the external than the man and sometimes you just have to go along with it. I know it doesn't make sense but I can't explain it to you. Literally she might like you but her close friend got in a fight with her or w/e over the holidays and she's not thinking about you, doesn't mean she's uninterested. Just be normal and text her "Hey, haven't heard from you in a while, how are things? Lets meet up....etc" something like that? If she doesn't respond well, then you got your answer.

Good luck bro

Hyrrokin · 2018-01-04T02:36:35+00:00

Based on what you've told us here I wouldn't say you messed anything up. Maybe she wanted to have sex when she slept over. If you weren't ready for that then it's her fault for wanting to rush it and being impatient. It's unfortunate but she doesn't appear interested anymore. If you want to abandon your pride you could reach out again and ask her something like "hey how have you been? Just following up with you because I haven't heard back and I really thought we were hitting it off."

Good luck man.

ApoplecticAndroid · 2018-01-04T04:48:26+00:00

Send her a text - something that shows you are still interested but not over the top.
“Hey - hope you had a great Christmas - I’d like to get together again - msg me if you’re up for something” If no reply then that is clearly the end.

Alpacaz · 2018-01-04T05:50:34+00:00

Don't text her man, just stop. TWO weeks? Just give her space, they all come back. Screw that hole "be a man" bs. Youre coming off too friendly it sounds like. Just occupy your time with something else right now, women, books, work it dosent matter. Let her friends see you doing well without her. Id just delete her number so you don't get tempted. When she finally does text you out of the blue, DON'T YOU DARE JUMP TO THAT PHONE. Process what you're going to say, plan a meet up. Keep it short and simple. Don't ask where's she been etc. Act like nothing ever happened.

bigwilly10 · 2018-01-04T01:37:36+00:00

Don’t text her and start flirting with her friends

MyUsername0_0 · 2018-01-04T00:59:13+00:00

You did something to mess it up. Maybe a bit too eager or too big a setup for the inevitable sex. She may be one of those I like to be in control chicks, where you just respond to her affections and let her "drive" so to speak in the bedroom.

Title	Went out with a girl a few times. Not sure how to proceed after some silence. Do I text her? If so, what do I say?
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Date	January 4, 2018 12:15 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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