How to Self-Amuse (Pickup Guide)

I wrote out my last video on self-amusement below. Enjoy!

3.1. Discover what makes you laugh and feel good: What do you joke around about when you’re with your friends? What comedians, TV shows, or YouTube channels do you find funny? What about them makes you laugh? Realize anything can be self-amusing if it makes you feel good, even silence.

Use experimentation to find what makes you laugh: I find that saying ridiculous things, surreal humor, and physical humor resonate most with me the most. * Physical humor: falling, inventing your own dance move (finding nemo), getting people to carry me [conan o’brien, 29 year old]

• Edgy humor: What's the hardest part about walking through a field of dead babies? Your erection

• Dumb humor: What do you call a black man on the moon? An astronaut.

• Really bad puns. What kind of bagel can fly? A plain bagel.

• Witty humor

• Deadpan: Moe “Yeah my uncle touched me as a kid.”

• Surreal humor: Eric Andre show [octopus]

• Embodying a character: Cheerful British man

• Creating awkward situations [YOU CARE TOO MUCH BRO]

• You can use elements of all the above^{^}

ABSTRACT:

3.2 You can’t really self amuse until you let go of all this nonsense like the identity you’ve created about being someone, having an ego wrapped around it, being overly sensitive and being insecure. “ Quote: “You find it offensive? ...I find it funny. That's why I'm happier than you.” You have to cultivate genuine self-acceptance and self-love. EGO IS THE ENEMY by Ryan Holiday ///// SIX PILLARS OF SELF-ESTEEM by Nathaniel Brandon

3.3 Life is a comedy, so learn to laugh. STOP taking yourself so seriously. Put your personality on the line and talk about something that entertains you first and foremost. People are drawn to where the fun is and want be part of it.

3.4 Juan’s epiphany: “You can go out and have fun, and then on top of that you get to have sex? That’s like a basketball player who after hitting a three-pointer has a cheerleader come over and suck his dick!”

3.5 Don’t stress if you aren’t instantly in a self-amused state when you go out. Relax. Tell yourself “however I feel right now is good enough. I accept it.” Let go...

• Then have fun for its own sake, not to accomplish something.

• Don’t expect anything in return. (DOG ANALOGY)

• Don’t judge yourself, anything is good enough if it makes you feel good.

• Self-amusement is like a muscle; the more you use it, the stronger it gets.

PRACTICAL:

3.6 Ask: What can I say or do to elevate my mood without hurting anyone else?

• Hosting a party analogy. Pranksters destroy their psyches by trolling people.

3.7.2 You can’t change your emotions directly, but you can change your actions that in turn change your emotions. Motion creates emotion. Get out of your thoughts and into the action. The action is what makes you feel good. AWAKEN THE GIANT WITHIN by Tony Robbins

3.7.1 Ask yourself what would entertain me? What do I want to do? How can I spice things up?

3.8 To test whether you’re self-amusing or not. When you say something funny, don’t look at the girls eyes’ to see her reaction. Just put it out there and enjoy it yourself. Eliminate the “What did you think of that? What did you think of me?” frame. Whenever you find yourself thinking "what do I do" "what do I say" or feel a taking energy in your chest that is trying to keep the girl there, that means you're in impression mode. This should be your cue to focus on expression by self amusing. [fuck I hope she doesnt leave CUE -- self amuse]

• Treat every girl the same. If you do your self-amusement for every girl and then you’re talking to the hot girl and making a big deal about it, it fucks you. Every girl gets part of your fun.

3.9 Fun first, game second. What do I mean by that?

• 1st part of the night -> Self-amuse, talk to lots of girls

• 2nd part of the night -> Self-amusement momentum carries over, so you can focus on being more decisive, find the girl you want to go home with and stay in

• This is one style of game, others work too. You can pull in the first part of the night as well.

3.10 Whenever you’re about to do something that’s a little intense for you, like approaching a group of girls and guys or reapproaching a girl, make yourself laugh, and then throw yourself into that situation. Subway game example. Any time something you’re doing involves more social pressure or is more outside of social norms, you can self-amuse to ease that tension and eliminate awkwardness.

3.11 Examples:

• Role playing: introducing the girl to people as your wife who’s pregnant with twins

• Improv off of what the girl says. Mexico, You are my little tamale

• A topic of conversation that amuses you: hipsters reading newspapers in the park.

• Speaking gibberish

• Accents. Korean restaurants we spoke perfect English until it came time to pronounce the menu items I’ll have the (bibimbap in a bowl).

• Sarcasm

• Surreal: Use as many pickup phrases while talking to girls

• Drama: WHY WOULD YOU DO THIS TO A HUMAN BEING

• Challenge: are you cool enough to see my iPhone?

• Command her to do things like tie your shoe

• Playfulness and teasing: after kissing her, say something like, “Wow, you’re a much better kisser than your mom.”

• Getting sexual, the ultimate form of mutual amusement

• Pretending you are really shy and have really bad game.

3.12 The Place It’s Coming From Internally

• You genuinely want to do something or say something for its own sake, not because you want to “get the girl” or impress your friends.

• You’re enjoying being you and putting your personality out into the world.

• You’re building up an abundance of good emotions and sharing them to girls with a light, carefree vibe

• You look at the world in a less fearful, and more lighthearted lens

3.13 Caveats The downside of too much self-amusement is that you become an unrelatable emotion and fail to show your realness. Don’t be afraid to be serious or real with the girl. It’s okay to be boring. (bootcamp Chase example: objectively witty and funny things back to back to back, but it came from the place of keeping the girl there and he failed to show realness and be more chill once she showed interest).

3.14 Don’t seek reactions from the girl. That comes off as desperate.

• Include the girl in the fun while calibrating to the her feelings. “Haha let me know if I’m too crazy, I’m feeling really confident today.” This turns self-amusement into mutual amusement.

• Don’t try to put on a front or a weird persona; you don’t have to be someone you’re not like a witty Shakespeare for her to like you. Put your true self out there; that’s the best way to find a girl you connect with.

• Have some regard for social norms. Don’t start trolling people and being overly obnoxious.

3.15 Recap

Self-Amusement is the process of making yourself feel good, laugh, and have fun from an understanding of your sense of humor and what puts you in a good mood.

• It puts you in control of your emotions and gets you out of your thoughts and into the action of the moment where you generate a great vibe.

• The more fun you have gaming when you’re out, the more you enjoy it, and as a result you do it more, and get good fast..

• Find out what types of humor you resonate with and fully express yourself.

• You self-amuse by focusing on expression, not impression.

• Ask yourself what can I do or say to make myself laugh and feel good? Then share that positive energy with the girls you meet from a healthy place.

• Self-amusement is like a muscle; the more you use it, the stronger it gets.

• You want to make this something you are, not something you do. Add this in your life: joke around with friends more. Laugh at situations you find yourself in.

• Incorporate it into your life. Nothing is real until it’s experienced.

See the full infield pull and examples here: Self Amusement Pickup Guide (+Night Game Infield) How to Self-Amuse