First time hang out tells me no sex

hunterpua · 2018-01-10T13:19:09+00:00

If she said it that early then that doesn't mean anything. Just give her an excuse to tell her friends. Don't talk to her about it, just create a scenario that she can twist into an excuse. It can be as simple as having some drinks at your place so she can blame the drinks for having sex with you.

She won't even need to actually tell anyone, she just needs an excuse.

ForgottenCat · 2018-01-10T12:26:35+00:00

"Cool, Im glad you said it first :)"

iHasABaseball · 2018-01-10T14:03:07+00:00

You don't invite girls over for the first time to have sex. That's going to be an obvious no pretty much 100% of the time. She probably picked up on that.

You take girls on dates and show them a fun time and build attraction, then invite them into your place (or find a means of letting her know you'd like to be invited into her place), then you naturally escalate more if there's anything there.

You're coming off as pushy and desperate to her. Calm down. Stop trying to go from zero to 100 before you even know each other at all.

recyclablebanthas · 2018-01-10T14:07:33+00:00

I invited her to my house today and she responded with : I want to come over but we wont have sex .

lol. That almost means that you're going to have sex.

At least, if you play it cool and just relax about it, it's possible that sex will likely happen.

A lot of girls just want to make sure that a guy can be mature about hanging out and won't just be sweating them like a desperate horny mess.

Obviously I asked her to come over to have sex . Actually what she is saying like : I dont want to have sex yet .

You need to chill a bit. You don't need to address it directly. What exact wording did you use when you asked her over? Referencing that or something else recent and relevant, would be more helpful. Like you probably gave some excuse when you asked her over, right? Your response should double down on that, and go for comfort building in telling her that it's all good.

Things can always heat up later once she's arrived.

Also, be on the look-out for a mismatch in values here; if she's not looking for casual, then you might have a bad time going for casual here. Not that she isn't casual. But it is a possibility.

Title	First time hang out tells me no sex
Author	Whattubluff
Upvotes	1
Comments	4
Date	January 10, 2018 12:16 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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