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Are girls supposed to be needy when they like you?

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January 26, 2018

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Title	Are girls supposed to be needy when they like you?
Author	[deleted]
Upvotes	2
Comments	22
Date	January 26, 2018 12:09 AM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/7t0n0f/are_girls_supposed_to_be_needy_when_they_like_you/
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[–]ortsnom 10 points11 points12 points 8 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link

[–]FlyInSpace 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link

How should I behave right now?

Be receptive to her feelings and invest at the same level than her or keep that slightly inferior emotional investment to make her stay in this phase?

She sometimes complain I don't talk enough to her on the phone, for instance. Several times she mentioned one time when I took a photo with another girl who was supposedly attracted to me and told me how she smiled at the moment but was jealous inside. Then one day, one of her female relatives asked if she could give her my number because she found me handsome (she was kidding), she refused and later repeated "you're mine and only mine" a few times.

What I'm saying is that the way she's showing her investment so much makes me wonder how I should behave with her. I don't know if being less invested is a long-term strategy to keep her or not. What if she ends up loosing interest just because I didn't show enough of mine?

Sorry for these lame questions, this is my first "true" relationship, other were just flirts and sex friends.

[–]ortsnom 2 points3 points4 points 8 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link

All fair questions and we love your being proactive with this. Here are some Golden rules to help you:

Spend your time the way that you want without fearing the consequences. You're 20, you're reaching the prime of your life and the most important thing you have is time. Don't waste it trying to make her happy when you feel her requests are unreasonable or she's being overbearing. If you love her and want to make her happy then do the things that make her happy but don't let her meeting unhappy dictate how you go about your life. You do you.
Be open and clear with her. Don't tell her you are just going to go out for 30 minutes to do something important when you actually want to play video games with your friends for the rest of the afternoon. Just tell it like it is. If she's upset, she will tell you. But hiding things, close calls and all that jazz chips away at what it is to be a man. Stand up and have the tough conversations, communicate what you need and don't be ashamed about how you spend your time.

If she complains, that's fine. But recognize that it's because she wants more of you in her life. You have your whole life ahead of you and you're not thinking of marrying this girl yet. And even if you are, that's the next 70+ years of your life. Slow down, cowboy. Realize that for a women to be attracted to you well into your late life that you need to grow and acquire skills, hobbies, charisma and such. You will not gain those things spending all your remaining hours with her watching TV and making sweet teenage love lol.

And whenever things get rough or out of control realize that it's just one moment in a day. Take it a day at a time, you always have options and choices and all you can ever do is try make the best ones day after day.

Best of luck

[–]FlyInSpace 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

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[–][deleted] -5 points-4 points-3 points 8 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link

Her strategy is to get pregnant by a alpha male which right now she perceives to be you. This is how women act when they are in love basically. Every hormone in her body wants you right now man. It's very powerful. She is acting needy to try to keep you because she perceives you to be so above her she doesn't want to lose you to another women.

You have complete power over her right now.

self-confident, courageous, mature, combative and mentally strong girl it doesn't matter they all act like little needy 5 year olds when they get into this state.

There is no set time frame for falling in love so even through its only been a month and that seems like a crazy thing to have happen in only a month it doesn't matter.

Is this your first girlfriend? how have you never experienced this?

In all my real relationships when I got a girl to this level they all wanted babies also and did the exact thing with the future projections about having them. My first girlfriend in middle school even wrapped her legs around me to try to force me to cum inside her. Thats how powerful this shit is to women so watch out for that lol.

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[–]FlyInSpace 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

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[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago* (1 child) | Copy Link

The real advice is to invest less and make her chase you more. The moment you give in and start spending all your time with her will start the countdown clock of your relationship going to shit and ending.

I know. That first girlfriend of mine from middle school i was with her for 4 years. The day i gave in to her nagging by spending more time with her and cutting other women out of my life I signed the death certificate for our relationship. I started treating her with more respect and being nicer, they say that's what they want, but the truth is the opposite. She was the most in love with me when I had a rotation of other girls than her and never spent time with her. I would break up with her consistently and make her earn and keep the title of girlfriend if she wanted to be with me.

[–]FlyInSpace 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link