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[–][deleted] 5 points6 points7 points 8 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Your jealousy will always travel with you. If you want to know how to get rid of it, then stick around. Make sure to read the RP Sidebar, RP Handbook, Book of Pook, and The Rational Male. Also, give up your bad ideas on how to do things. Put in the work. It’s no different than learning to invest or learning how to make a chair.
On a side note, think of what jealousy sub-communicates to women. Yep, it’s insecurity. Why would a man be insecure? He doesn’t have options. Why doesn’t he have options? He’s bad with women. Why is he bad with women? Women don’t find him attractive on any level.
[–]zaxanagian2 3 points4 points5 points 8 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I appreciate this, but at this age girls are doing whatever they like and are not known to be committed to relationship which is what I am afraid of. I also don’t want to get into a relationship in my school because it is small and everyone knows each other since we were very young so I’d rather start fresh with a girl that knows nothing about me, where do I start?
[–]TroutFollower 1 point2 points3 points 8 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
I have this exact problem! Been at the same small school for all my student life and have no interest in any girl there. I think what might help us both is cultivating friendships outside our school!
A friend left your school? Talk to him, go grab a coffee!
That girl from tennis class? Even if you aren’t attracted to her you can always befriend her!
The purpose of this is improving your social circle. Friends will show you their friends and then you might meet someone you click with!
If you don’t have any activity out of school I highly recommend you to have it! Learn to play an instrument, if you re religious get in a moviment you identify with or just participate in your church’s activities, learn a new sport, etc.
Hope I helped!
[–]zaxanagian2 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Yeah my exact issue haha. I think I’ll try going to the gym more frequently because I see some girls there sometimes that glance at me :) Do you feel like in your school, because you have been there your whole life, that you have the reputation of just being a friend ? Like why would any girl decide to start dating me now since we’ve known each other for 10+ years on a friendly basis so it would be weird to get into a relationship. You did help, thanks !
[–]wont_give_no_kreddit 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You are putting a lot of roadblocks and doubts on yourself before you even try out. Undertand that doubts and concerns will always try to hold you back. Your best bet is to be okay with rejection and gracefully try with the next one.
[–]TroutFollower 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Well it always depends. I think if you haven’t tried anything with that girl, you aren’t 100% friendzoned. Try showing interest, escalate, kino... if you think she isn’t reciprocating or isn’t confortable with your moves you should stop (in my opinion) and move on.
Problem may be school gossip. Just don’t give a fuck about them and be confident on what you re doing! My tip: don’t go jumping from girl to girl in your school.
Girls that have been there 10+ years also have the same problem as you ! This is not a competition: you vs her. It should be more of a co-op game where both try to find out if the other one is an “ideal mate”.
Btw next time you catch a girl glancing smile or wink at her. Who knows what might happen after that!
[–]Bartolomos 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Maybe the gym? If they'll give group lessons go check that out, mine has like cardio and dance combined, wich is basicly a full class of ladies your age u can get to know
[–]zaxanagian2 -1 points0 points1 point 8 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I do go to the gym and I do sometimes see girls there my age, I just need to build the confidence to go and talk to them. Thanks !
[–]Bartolomos 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Hit em with the classic "you still using this"?
[–]Sworn_to_Ganondorf -1 points0 points1 point 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Just talk too em, one time I went to a show in holwood for a metal concert and in line there was a girl behind me while we waited to get in for like an hour.
I noticed from just her body language she seemed like she wasnt with anyone. So I simply said "Did you come here alone too"? Which she said she is but shes a photographer for one of the bands. And from there I just said,its always awkward talking to someone new. Which sort of broke the ice and through the night/show wed talk here and there when the bands stopped playing. Bout eachother and stuff.
Didnt ask for her number or anything because I was in a relationship. But I was just alone and wanted to talk to someone. She was really cool, im sure if after the show I asked her to grab some food at the nearby place within walking distance we could have kept talking. But just go to things you like to do and just talk to girls that are also there.
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