Nerves when speaking to women

ortsnom · 2018-04-08T18:17:48+00:00

You need more practice. Practice, fail, practice, fail, practice, win, practice, fail.

GuyFromDaStore · 2018-04-08T17:36:26+00:00

Get out of your own skull mentally and put your personality out there, its risky to do so because you invite the (slim) possibility of rejection and ridicule but it must be done.

A guy gets nervous because he's hiding inside his own head, nervously thinking about what to say next and not actually listening and interacting in the conversation.

hunterpua · 2018-04-08T20:08:04+00:00

This is a piece of cake! Being in your head is basically you being self-conscious. So shift your focus to her. Observe what she's all about. Try to read her body language and look for certain cues in her clothing, try to figure out where her accent is from, notice what's going on with her hair. In the conversation, try to animate the things she says. That is, create images based on the things she says so that if she describes what happened one time she went to Starbucks you don't just hear the words but a movie plays in your head of her doing whatever she's doing at Starbucks.

Its really hard to think about what's going on with you when you're so focused on what's going on with another person. You're never self-conscious while you watch a movie are you? That's because you're focused on what the characters are doing instead of what you're doing.

Kenic_In_MD · 2018-04-08T17:03:46+00:00

What helps me is to realize that no matter how attractive a girl is, she isn't perfect. Take that imperfection and amplify it in your head. It will help with the nerves. They never go away completely, it's an old ingrained survival thing that our "primitive mind" does in order to keep us safe. You can ignore it and learn to ride the adrenaline.

Title	Nerves when speaking to women
Author	jiggyciggy
Upvotes	3
Comments	4
Date	April 8, 2018 4:57 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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