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If a girl never texts first or initiates a hangout, despite me doing both of those multiple times so far, is it worth asking out or is that basically a no?

0urlasthope

April 13, 2018

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Title	If a girl never texts first or initiates a hangout, despite me doing both of those multiple times so far, is it worth asking out or is that basically a no?
Author	0urlasthope
Upvotes	3
Comments	18
Date	April 13, 2018 3:37 AM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/8bw8zv/if_a_girl_never_texts_first_or_initiates_a/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/seduction/if-a-girl-never-texts-first-or-initiates-a-hangout.1444760 https://theredarchive.com/post/1444760

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[–]Kenic_In_MD 2 points3 points4 points 8 years ago (11 children) | Copy Link

[–]0urlasthope[S] 1 point2 points3 points 8 years ago (10 children) | Copy Link

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[–]Scrub_TLC 1 point2 points3 points 8 years ago* (2 children) | Copy Link

Nothing against you bro, there are just some especially thick headed slow people out there and all you need is ONE fool who does not know how to understand nuance to go rape someone.

My rule is anytime I am giving advice about sexual escalation I include the statement "When in doubt, don't rape" and suggest they pursue more sexually 'open' opportunities till they have a good sense of the energy of the situation and how to read a partners non-verbals.

Nuance, nuance, man, people just don't get it sometimes. I'm just looking out for the ones that slip through.

Was not personal nor suggesting your post in anyway advocated anything sexually predatory, just trying to be explicitly clear for those poor poor boys who are excessively naive and or tragically autistic. Sometimes it helps some of the people slower to grasp some of the concepts to be extraordinarily pedantic.

All Love, Scrub

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[–]WIA20XX 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link

[–]0urlasthope[S] 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link

[–]WIA20XX 1 point2 points3 points 8 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

Kissed? Frenched? BJ? If none of this, you're in the friend zone.

Don't despair this time! You're not too deep into the friend zone. Some guys are very deep into the friend zone. To me, the situation is salvageable.

Why?

She's telling you how to seduce her, you have to initiate everything. EVERYTHING!

INCLUDING THE HOOKING UP!

Given her previous behavior, and yours - make this next time the LAST time. Netflix and chill.

Have your regular activity date, but this time make sure that she feels your skin, you feel hers and then get her home.

If she is flinching from your touch, before you get home, it will be tough to bang. I would but the date short with no explanation, other than you don't really feel anything for her.

But if she is giving reciprocating...get her home.

The goal here is to makeout, pause, makeout more,, pause, and keep getting more intimate, pausing, two steps forward, one step back, until she's ready to go all the way. To the point where she is reaching for you.

If she's not trying to hang out at your place alone, move on, cut all contact, find some new girls.

Why?

The girl is a vampire, a time leech.

She wants you to invest your time into her, but she's not going to invest anything into you that you want.

This is the friend zone, but the reality is that you aren't friends.

You're lying to her about your feelings and she's using you for attention, validation, and something to do.

If she was actually your friend, she'd help you bag the next chick. She'd introduce girls to you, introduce her for friends to you. She'd cook for you, do your laundry, help you pick out some clothes.

A friend helps you succeed.

[–]0urlasthope[S] 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

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