Hey. Love this sub.

I am in a new city for a few weeks, and I want to go to the bars/clubs. I don't drink, and I don't do drugs. I feel SUPER weird going to a bar/club alone and some bars seem more like sit down places some are standing shows. Not sure how to find the right place.

I went out tonight and I walked into a bar I have never been to and I went to the bar and I just felt weird like people were staring. Also, there was no way I could approach anyone as they were all with groups... idk...

I feel so weird at a bar... like it feels so obvious that I don't fit in because I'm drinking water and just chilling. It's hard to get momentum or move forward.

When I am with friends, it's like Boom. I can break off and always come back to them. I have someone to talk to when bored, and we can make plans together.

I have no idea what it is. It's weird to even enter a bar with no other purpose.

TL;DR;

How do I

  1. Find the right bars/clubs to meet girls?
  2. Not feel awkward drinking water at a bar scouting for girls to meet?