I confessed to my crush and got rejected

Fossana · 2018-05-01T10:25:05+00:00

I think you should've asked her out rather than confessing how you feel, unless she was a good friend of yours. It's hard to explain why one is better than the other, but would you rather be friends with someone who invites you to a party or someone who comes up to you and asks, "Do you want to be friends?"

Also if you're going to tell her you like her (or ask her out), do it in person if possible. It shows more confidence. Confidence is attractive.

And if you have to tell a girl through text, then don't bring it up right when you're about to takeoff and right after saying some other stuff. It doesn't demonstrate confidence, because you've given yourself an escape and you've taken away its primacy.

What's important is that you did something though. Learn and improve. I'd say don't take a second shot. Let her make the move. Be friends with her if you want, but do so for the friendship and not in hopes of more.

K04free · 2018-05-02T04:10:01+00:00

First off that was a terrible way to tell her you're interested, but it's too late now.

Here is what you do.

Stop responding to her for the immediate future. You probably have mutual friends and will run into each other, that's ok just act normal. Don't ignore her in person, that's just creepy.
Start working out more often or harder if you haven't already. Do not get into an eating depression.
Get a haircut and new clothes that fit properly.
Game other girls while your crush is present, you might get with them you might not.
She will approach you or she won't.
Move on, there's tons of girls out there.

LingeringGnome · 2018-05-01T20:22:57+00:00

Bad seduction. I wouldn't feel good about spilling your guts prematurely. Learn from it, though.

Women love emotionally-centered, strong, and confident men. They don't do this shit over text. They ask a woman out, in person, right away when they feel something for her.

t1mman · 2018-05-01T16:55:52+00:00

IMHO: you tried something when you didn't have "attraction". She knows you as a friend, as a brother. She likes you but not this way.

YOUASKEDFOR2ICECUBES · 2018-05-01T09:46:38+00:00

You got the point across and its okay if you got rejected. She already made up her mind about where you stand. Now its up to you to stay strong and pursue other women

2018-05-01T10:25:43+00:00

"flight yada yada oh yeah btw I like you ..uh yeah cos you dance like nobodies watching.. um yeah nvm"

Apparently she hasn't said or done anything for you to say that you like her

I also feel like some things are better said in person and that timing is important. Something like "I like you" could be said by holding her hand

Tell her you got ahead of yourself and ask her out to do something with you

Keep it simple hey

7mile_ · 2018-05-01T17:00:04+00:00

This is what happens when you wait too long to make your move. Next time show your intentions right away so you don't waste valuable time.

Animal_expert_2011 · 2022-03-30T15:14:45+00:00

happened to me in February. I'd suggest to ask her what color she thinks you would be and why.

Title	I confessed to my crush and got rejected
Author	TheChocolateBrownie
Upvotes	6
Comments	9
Date	May 1, 2018 9:14 AM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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