seduction in a relationship.

2018-05-13T22:06:42+00:00

Yes, it absolutely works, however you can’t do it once and expect it to be the quick fix. You have to stay consistent with it, otherwise you’ll slide right back into the rut, and it’ll be harder to get out the next time.

JoeMarini · 2018-05-14T03:09:44+00:00

This sounds like a deep rooted problem that can't be solved with one pick up line.

First, there are fundamental things you need to understand about attraction and what women are attracted to in men:

Women are attracted to men with masculine traits such as purpose, drive, mission and men who "penetrate" through life
Confidence, decision making, proactivity, taking action.
Emotional and physical strength
Men who are self-amused, fun, and charismatic, that can make her laugh.
Dominance in their work, hobbies, physicality, body language, and social non verbal cues.

Women get turned on by the things you say, your behavior, the way you act. It sounds like you may not be courting her properly and make have become complacent because you are married.

You need to open her up and talk to her about it. Talk to her about the lack of intimacy and ask her how "we" (as a couple) can work on this. This is a crucial dialogue you both need.

When you can open up a women emotionally, then eventually you can physically. Open heart, open legs.

Ask yourself hard questions: What in your own behaviors could be turning her off? Are you acting too needy/beta? Does she respect you? Do you still take her out and plan fun things together and make decisions and plan them well? What are you doing to physically escalate? Are you in contact with her TOO much (I.E: texting too much) Let her text you more often, contact you first

Make dates where you plan them, she can show up and look hot then when you get home do things like: massage her, make strong eye contact with strong non verbal cues and let her FEEL the emotions for you.

Do things to raise her body temp and make her hot for you.

If you go to therapy or have a conversation on why she is not in the mood you need to LISTEN to her and let her communicate her feelings to you. Then, validate her feelings and she will feel relief and opened up with your active listening. Then TAKE ACTION from there and be the man. Be the LEADER and be DOMINANT.

Try something, your wife will appreciate it hopefully.

Learn the 5 love languages, does she like acts of service, verbal things? physical touch? Find out what makes her feel LOVED, that will turn her on.

I hope some of this helps.

Mager1794 · 2018-05-13T22:13:51+00:00

I’ve found that constantly trying to seduce my girlfriend gives a lot of passion and life to our relationship and even goes as far to make her pursue me more as well! Making someone feel desired and special is one of the best parks of being alive, and it’s beyond rewarding for both parties.

If it doesn’t work, you atleast get to improve your seduction and you also will have more confidence in what the right path to move forward is in the relationship.

Jasonjvv · 2018-05-13T22:12:19+00:00

It seems like your marriage is missing some communication and understanding. There are reasons why her sex drive is low and you feel unhappy and before you waste your time learning how to game first try and understand the underlining thought s and emotions that are making her unhappy. And once you understand the reason then you can find a cure.

thechickenmancommeth · 2018-05-14T01:41:42+00:00

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recyclablebanthas · 2018-05-14T05:33:18+00:00

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i managed to get my wife by using a line from David deangelo which worked a charm!

First off, the line didn't "get your wife." There is far more to you and your interaction with her. Any dude can throw a line out there, but if the rest after doesn't work, you're not getting any further than an introduction. Let alone sex, relationship or marriage.

So give yourself a little more credit.

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I've found however that I dont really feel my wife really desires me and her sex drive has totally taken a dive.

You don't feel.... Really, this whole thing is something you should be sitting down and talking with her about. Not us.

But I will say that a couple things might be helpful to your mindset:

Develop or revisit your observational skills. Being aware of the moment helps you connect. Which helps connect with your wife in conversation, and also in sex.
Active listening in conversation puts things on easy mode. Being able to listen and follow-up well on what someone has been talking about, and digging deeper, instead of committing common mistakes like constantly responding by relating everything to your own reference point.

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my wife made a comment to me about how im not smooth.

This means you're not paying attention and doing awkward things or missing cues. I'd recommend watching this video on developing one's observation skills. It's titled about how to start conversations, but the video is actually him demonstrating and talking about observational skills.

J_A_B_88 · 2018-05-14T22:44:45+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/tlorg/my_relationship_manifesto_what_to_do_after_you/

Llleblanc1986 · 2018-05-13T22:06:59+00:00

You shouldn't have to learn seduction to seduce your own wife. Listen to how that sounds, you gotta man up, and either talk to her about it, or possibly let it go if you're (or she) is not satisfied. You don't need the mystery method or anything else to solve this.

thefluffyplum · 2018-05-14T02:41:13+00:00

Surprise neck kisses. Whistle when she undresses. Buy her edible panties. Grope her out of the blue. Ask her to sit on your lap/ kiss you etc.

Title	seduction in a relationship.
Author	thechickenmancommeth
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Date	May 13, 2018 9:47 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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