I FORGOT TO WRITE AT THE TITLE, this is about power, status, and SOCIAL CIRCLE GAME.

So a little overview about who I am. I was a introverted teen growing up, on highschool I got into competitive gaming and spent most of my time in front of the computer, with online friends, getting fat and killing my social life. As I said I was fat and depressed, and had never kissed a girl. Understanding how to pick up girls and interact was something I always craved, it was a big issue in my life that I knew I had to take care sometime. Specially because I do not have another life to live, if I do not do it in this one I wont ever do it.

Around that time I started to read about PUA, The game came out when I was 15yo and I read it and get to know mistery method shit and NLP and etc. After finishing high school I moved to a bigger city to prepare for college admission exams, and the little I knew about pick up and the kind of status I had within online gaming comunnity(I was actually good at counter strike) was enough to attract the girl that would became my first girlfriend. This ralationship lasted less than a year, it was full of lessons. After that I got single and started to read about game again and to try to use it, but I was still an unconfidend depressed kid that did not really know what he was doing, but a year later I still got to get my second girlfriend, also because of social circle status game. My mother had pretty high value on a religious group where her mother was the main coordinator. I was seem as a rich kid from a powerful family, even though it was not exactly like that. I loved my second girlfriend with all of my heart, and I still have a platonic feeling about her. We were together for 6y, after the first year I went to university and we had a ‘distance relationship’, on Uni I would usually not go out and make friends cause it would cause friction in our relationship, so I would hang up with people that also dont go out, having small and restrict social circles. After 3 years of uni my gramma had cancer and I stopped study for 2 years to live with my mother and take care of her, during that time I was close to my GF again. Than gramma passed away and I came back to finnish Uni and had my gf on a DR again. Around that time I was behind on my course and was being put on classes where I didnt knew anyone and I did not had the few friends I once had anymore. I was on that depressive vortex and decided that something needed to be done, so I cut it all and decided to start again. First I quit the course I was doing and started another one, on another university. Than I needed to break up with my GF, I am not the kind that cheats, it was hard as hell cause I loved her, and I still feel pain about having to do it, 2 month after I had started new uni I broke up with her. The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho helped me deal with it Side note: II know a lot of PUA and self help gurus tell you to read that, and that is because the book is and easy read and HAS A MESSAGE, the message that you HAVE to go after what you believe is your path, even if it means lefting behind people that love you, and people that you love. I read it more than once, before it was in PUA hype, most because Paulo Coelho is brazilian and it was like the most sold book on the planet and I’m also brazilian and I read.

  • Now I will get to the fun part, how I have done it

    First of, the change I wanted to be done was not just about picking up chicks, but about presence and power and status as a whole. I understand that PUA is the same as training dogs, or educating children and getting away with stuff. I like to look at it from a perspective of “If I have status and power within my circle, people will be dragged into me, not just the girls but all people” As I said, I’m not on it just to seduce girls, but to conquer the world.

    So, when I thought about changing my life I did not expected it to be like ‘well now i’m single so lets hit on every girl on Uni. I believe you dont shit where you eat, so at first I was just thinking about being active on uni life and making friends, while practicing my social skills and expand social circles. I knew this would help me in all areas of my life, as my path of changing was not just about getting girls, but as being a more powerful person as a whole. I have a strong beliefe that this thing of getting girls is secondary on my life, what I want to achieve is a powerful presence as a whole. I want to have the same confidence as with talking to girls, talking to a police officer, talking to a teacher, or talking to a possible inverstor.

  • The Wingman: I went to social events of my classmates, got to know people, found out who they were and started befriending all of them. I had the fortune to make friends with a guy 10 years younger than me, he was a smart, quick witted, good looking young surfer dude. Also humble and had ideas and tastes in comum with me(like liking girls, to the point of wanting to go after them), we got good friends and I had an aura of a mentor too him, even though he is a lot better than me in some areas of PUA like cold approaching people or really being the social guy at uni. Good thing it was that as I talked to him he started to understand stuff and was willing to listen and learn, so being an intelectual person that understand theory better than practice I would coach him in social interactions and help us both even though I’m no practical expert, but by knowing a lot of theory I could see him doing stuff and we could talk to and assimilate stuff together. But to the eyes of other people I still look like the one that gives direction when they look at both of us. We have a lot of other stuff helping us as a team.

  • The female friend: Going back to Uni life, on the first party I had with classroom colleagues I felt attracted and a connection with an alt girl, I was just starting my path and didnt actually knew how to push things forward. I wont talk much more about it for now, but I can say that she became friends with me. I might have been put on a friend zone, but I didnt see it as a failure, as I said gaming on my uni was not my main objective at the time but making friends and a social circle was. And I got friends with a fun girl that liked to party and was willing to go out and do stuff, she was pale, skinny and all tatted up, hot in a SG girl kinda of way. And as with most of the SG style girls, full of daddy issues. I had added to my social circle a hot girl, I was clearly the leader of the group when we were togheter. I even heard gossip that we were fucking, and it was all adding up to my perceived value.

  • The studend representation org: My course and college were kinda new, we did not had a “student representation org” yet (it is a political unity very comum in university system in brazil, I`m not sure what is the counterpart on american uni) and as people of my course started to mobilize to create it I got involved. At first just because of my love of politics, as StuRep orgs in Brazil are usually a tool for far-left to do politics so I got involved first just to not let it work for that objective, but later, with my understanding of power, it was pretty easy to took control of it , my wingman became the main director and we started to use it to our goals. How ? by doing stuff that connects people, to us and to each other.

  • Parties: As StuRep directors, our main and most enjoyable experience was setting up parties. Not sure if our concept of parties apply to every culture, most of our parties were small, never more than like 40-50 ppl, it was more like a get together or house party with booze and music and ppl from the same social circles/enviroment. And as being part of the staff, it made us having to talk to people, getting to know them and invite them, and we had an easy excuse to do so. We had to talk and invite not only people from our course, but people that study other stuff on our Uni campus, so even though there was ppl not attending parties we still got to know them, at least their names and their courses. And we also had the luck that even though parties had few people, it was not always the same groups who attended, so we befriended different people on different parties, but we were always the organizers, and this makes you be known.

  • New students reception:

Again, I do not remember the counterpart in English or US Uni culture. In Brazil we have somethin we call ‘trote’ that is a rite of passage when new students enter university, there is a variety of activities that might occur depending on the UNI you attend and its culture, some might be violent or humiliating. Our ‘trote’ was pretty mellow, but it was a way to get to know all of the calouros (how do you call the ones that just got into uni? juniors?freshman?) that go in the university in our course. So we got to know all the girls that joined my course in 17 and 18 ( I joined in 2016), and I’m sure they know me.

  • LR: The first calouros party at my house. So, keeping with the history, after first year of new college I had not hooked up with anybody from campus (But I had girls and stuff outside of it), the first impression girls had from me was still the ‘ME’ that joined Uni while still dating, a lot more introvert, not sexual toward other girls and stuff like that. But as second year of Uni started, and we had the first students reception, the girls that met me for the first time at there were meeting someone different, it is not like they met someone that changed, to them that was the only ‘me’ they knew, so it is like I have always been like that.

    We had our first party after reception, with our calouros, at my place. It was a churrasco, the brazilian way of BBQ party, it usually involves a lot more beer than grilled meat, sometimes does not have meat at all. It usually happens during the day, when is still hot, most times there is a pool, beer, caipirinhas and music. I was living with other dudes on a house with a party area with pool, churrasqueira (a special kind of grill usualy made with brick and mortar against a wall, with a chimney, specially made for brazilian style bbq), there was also a pool table area with a big 50” TV and lots of couches and stuff, my beddrom was a suite with my own hot tube. Side note: It is not like my house matters that much, but I’m sure it added to the perceived status I was achieving. (btw my car is super shitty even by BR standards, I, by far, drive the worst car of all my friends that got cars) So at this party I wasnt with a ‘lets pick some chicks’ mentality, I was the host so my job was not getting much drunk, making sure the party was going smooth regarding to food being offered, beer being cold, toilets having toilet paper and towels. And the most important, making sure people were having a great time, talking to the ones that felt out of place, bringing people into conversations, teasing and playing a bit with drunk people that came to me wanting to share their happines. You know, I was just being a good host, being social and helping people get social themselves. At the end of the party, as people were leaving, there were a group of strong warriors talking about going to an after party at a trendy club we have in my city. I was thinking about going cause, as a host, I wasnt drink and still had energy, there was also like other 5 ppl talnking about after party. Two guys and two girls from my classmates, the other girl was a very cute 18yo caloura. We made plans of getting ready to the party, I gave a ride to this caloura’s house so she could take a shower and change clothes. When we got back to my house to meet the other ppl they kinda flaked away. Two of them (that were hooking up) had slept on the living room couch already. So we went to the club just the two of us, we came back home and slept together. Next day we woke up and it was a nice sunny sunday, the couple that slept on the couch were also awake. We enjoyed the pool and drank and ate what we still had from the party of the day before. We were all flirty and smiles, listened to music on the couch sharing earphones and touching bodies, and I made her happy. She ‘forgot’ her sunglasses at home and I got to see her one last time the next week. Nowadays I think she is dating someone and I still cross her on the halls now and then, I always say hi to her and she always smiles back to me with cute bright eyes.

Now why I told this story ? As you can see, I did not hit on this girl at all during the party, I don’t even remember having conversations with her at the event. But all the aura that I was exhaling created huge amounts of attraction on her, to the point she was confortable being there alone at the end, with people pretty new to her (she knew us from college for like a week), and even though I obviously had to like hit on her when we were alone at the club it was a pretty easy and efortless game, like she probably had already made up her mind hours before that if I went after her like a normal person she would be down for it. ( I mean, sometimes guys are going well and creep out late on the road) At this time she probably was already seing me as a high status male within college social circles, even though I did not realise it that much then. Nowadays I see a lot of things I could’ve done better with this girl, but it is just another way to state that game does not need to be perfect to work.

Around that time I my mom got sick, I slowed a lot down on my ‘going after girls’ life. Also my wingman kinda got involved with a girl during this months. But we were still going out now and then and our Uni life was still active. Near the end of 17 my mom got better and I got full commited to work on my enterprise, I had some dates and had a fuckbuddy outside UNi circles, but I was commited to myself and wasnt going after girls, but it does not mean I stopped improving myself(like in a mark mason style). I was completely confident on my work and it showed off in every other aspect of my life, and even though I was not actively pursuing new girls to fuck I did not stopped being social and smiling and flirting with girls I encountered through life.

So than we got to next year, by this time I was trimming the edges and me and my wing got a lot better at game. We got better at stuff like displaying interest, being sexual, flirting for amusement and get boldness and confidence. Also, being there for two years already we knew a lot of people around UNi, we are easely the guys that greet the higher amount of people when we walk around campus. And as people pass by we are usualy talking to people, but not the same people, you will spot us chatting with a wide range of smaller groups around there. And most of the time they are girls, like I alredy have like bff guy friends, but we can always have new fun girls within our circles, and maaaannnn, girls will look at you a lot different when you are amongst other girls. You start to be the social savvy alpha guy, that have girls talking to and smiling at him at the halls, while he is laid back leaning against a wall or siting on a bench, and everybody passing by that hall will notice that. Getting back to the story, so when we had Students reception this year we were again ‘different’ us (when I say us it is because I see my wingman as someone that walked the same path I did, by me side) We were still the ones that organized shit, but we had improved as ‘alpha males’. We got to know all the calouras again, but this time being a lot more flirtatious and sexual, and confident. And internalizing the ALWAYS. BE. CLOSING. as I realize I missed tons of oportunities last year cause I either let the window close or did not push things foward when I should. And we stopped giving a fuck about get rejections and fear of showing intentions. On reception day there was this girl that was a caloura from last year that was extremely into me, she was orbiting me the whole time and I was flirtatious and shit, I pumped up the conversation many times and it got sexual many times. At first I wasnt really trying anything, she wasnt a target and as I said I did that also did that as amusement. But than I thought about ALWAYS BE CLOSING, so the first party we had with the new calouros I left with this girl and we hooked up at my house. Later on I would discover she had a crush on me since the first time she saw me at college. I would also go on to discover how other girls were perceiving me. As I said about the year before, the girls that joined Uni and were seeing me for the first time did not meet the ‘older me’.

Than some time after that we had the second party of the year, it was held in a country house of a girl from my Uni and it was supposed to last two days, there was a lot of bedrooms for us to sleep there, this was the first time in two years that I wasn’t part of the organization of the party. Being a lot more relaxed I decided that this time I was getting drunk and having fun, and I got like wasted after just a few hours of party. I dont remember much of what happend after that, but I know what people told me. I had 3 drunk girls taking care of me, at a time I was in bed wasted with a drunk hot boob jobbed chick that was going all over me and kissing me and shit (like if it was the other way around it would be sexual assault) just to have other girl to came and take her off me. Around 5am I woke up with two other girls around my mattres that came to see if I was ok, as I was waking up I layed my head on one of the girls lap and she ran her hand through my hair and I was like “ohh this feels good” with a squirk smile and a cafajeste look and shit and we like stayed there talking for a lot before I woke up. So I did not hook up with anyone at that party, even though I had girls over me. But the next day, as the party now continued as a churrasco, I were chatting and getting feedback of what happend the day before and shit and I heard a story that when I got wasted some group of calouras were talking about me and one of than said what was a consensus amongst them: “ohh poor OP that got wasted, he is the crush of everybody in our class”. One of the girls that said that were still at the party the next day and she confirmed it, there was even a moment at the party that we crossed each other while walking and she said like “hey you OP, the crush of everybody” with a squirk flirty smile.

So this was a huge realization to me, and also a huge boost in confidence. It was the kind of feedback I needed to ensure that all that I was doing was paying off.

After hearing that I started to look back at how we’d roll and who else was in our university, and it was easy to see that now I was THE sexual alpha guy there. Yes there is other guys, some of them handsome, some of them strong, but they do not exhale the aura that I do. And even though some of them might have girls with crush on them, it is not like they are taking advantage of that. Other patern that we started to see, now that I exhale that sexual masculinity that a guy that FUCKS I see girls that want sex to orbit me. Some of them are not that attractive, some of them are not that direct, but I still flirt with them and even if they are not hot or a target it helps with hot girls and status, cause girls QUICKLY realise that there are girls orbiting you and they see that as power and status.

After that I hooked up with 3 other girls from my Uni, 2 of them from the class from the girl that said I was the crush of all. I also saw like at least 5 girls from other courses in our campus, that I have never talked to, to like me on tinder (I have tinder gold so I know who like me before I match them) and I’m sure they now that it is me.

Anyway, this ain’t a stoy with an end, it is my life and it is still going. The point that I wanted to show is that I came from being a nobody, just a new studend, older than average, with a girlfriend and no female friends, no sexual or flirty at all, and I got to became the alpha sexual guy at the university within two years, most of them just working on myself and not on pickup skills. It does not mean I wasnt going out and doing cold approach, cold approach sure helped me with my social life at Uni and all of that. But this is me telling just a social circle gaming experience, I also went out with female friends from Uni to parties and social gathering and they saw me cold approaching and flirting with girls, and it is a win-win to both sides cause when I go out with Uni friends it is usually me, my wing and sometimes one or another male friend and like 5-6 young hot girls. So the girls I approach open a lot easier cause they already see me with girls and the girls of my Uni confirm that the social savvy image I project holds true even outside my main social circle and as the word in college spreads easily it adds to the perceived status I have. And I’m far far away from the creepy pickup guy that go after girls at night and have nothing whatsoever to offer them after that, like no social circle and normal life and stuff like that to back it up. Girls that meet me now can sense from where my confidence come from, cause they see me everyday and see my life and see my instagram and see me not like a pickup dude, but as a serious man that what he put it out there is the same what he is inside, he is true to himself.

Tl;dr: I had a life I did not want to, I decided to change, I got social and started doing stuff that matters within my social circle, I started to get social off of it and took care of my life and those who are near me, after two years I am prob the most popular guy on my university, all of this not focusing on picking up the chicks, but improving as a male in every aspect of my life. This is the story of my life it is still not over, I’m still walking the path.

This was more like a story about my path, later on I will make a post with like concepts and situations and technics that I think were helpful for achieving it all. I have a lot of notes, just gonna take a couple of days to review and edit it before posting, I’ll try doing it over weekend.

If anybody wants me to go deeper about anything on that story just ask in the comments and I’ll do my best.

ps. I'm new here and knows shit about formating it at reddit, sry if it does not have line spaces and it gets confusing to read.