I read this earlier:

'' Remember - chasing a girl completely dissipates attraction, so the moment you validate her, she will lose interest. Ugly / low relative value guys are forced to play the attraction game. The girl realizes he doesn't validate her, she says "WTF, this ugly guy doesn't like me, I'll change that!" and then proceeds to chase his validation, he plays a tight attraction game, fucks her a few times and she is caught.''

But wouldn't trying to escalate on a girl be 'chasing' her and thus ruining attraction? Or telling her she's cute ala Mark Manson? i'm not sure how one can advance with a girl if they always need to be aloof and not validate her etc.

And what's the difference between a guy who is scared to make a move and so never escalates or shows interest, and a guy with 'game' who is purposely acting aloof and not validating her?

I'm starting to think that my friends who never talk to girls are actually showing expert level 'game' lol