So I moved to a new city by myself for work a year ago. I don’t have many friends in this city apart from a couple people I work with. So basically i use Tinder and Bumble to meet women. I’m tall decent looking and I hit the gym and have a built physique. (Not trying to sound arrogant). I’m also a bit introverted and watch a fair bit of porn which is probably my weakness.

Not having a girlfriend is making me sad. I feel like my parents, family and friends are thinking something is wrong with me because I don’t have one. I do really try hard to get one though. I’m even happy to drop my standards a little bit. I even get annoyed when I see happy couples now because I feel like no matter how hard I try I can never have that.

Anyway a lot of the time I use Tinder, Bumble most of the time I get ignored or on Bumble girls will message me first and then not message me a second time. (Not sure why this happens so often. They say “hi how are you?” And I’ll say “ hey good hows your day going” and then they never write back). Also a lot of girls just talk shit and play games with no plan on ever actually meeting you.

A few girls I have dated I have made out with on the first date. This has happened three times but each time the next day they either stop texting me or they say I’m a nice guy but they aren’t interested. Which is confusing for me especially after I had a made out with them.

So I thought i’ll stop making moves so fast on the first date. The last girl I dated we went out for 3 dates and she seemed really interested and then she stopped talking to me two weeks ago out of nowhere. I kissed her on the second date but that’s all that happened.

How come none of these girls ever stick around? The amount of effort i have to put in and it never goes anywhere is just frustrating for me. What should I do?