Should you always aim for a kiss on the fist date?

SpinPlates · 2018-07-05T21:12:48+00:00

Just depends how you want to play it out. If you're looking for an LTR and you have the time and the date is going well but she doesn't seem to be at that point yet, hold the kiss back for the 2nd date.

If you have TRUE abundance and time is of the essence, go for the kiss. I almost always go for the kiss but you have to get the emotions high before you try. Especially at the end of the date. Walk her to her car or door and just go for it. Your fingers under her chin, steer her face towards yours. Don't just lean in without touching her.

A date is a movie and if the movie kills a character before you are invested in them it doesn't really matter. Don't kill your character to her with a kiss too early, but by the end of the movie some shit should be going down.

If she denies you, don't sweat it. Just laugh and say "alright" and don't text her. Maybe take a month but there is a good chance she contact you.

lbz25 · 2018-07-06T01:52:03+00:00

here is the thing u should know.

girls want to feel desired. That is not done simply by single acts such as kissing. That is done by the manner of how you talk and interact etc. If you're not creating sexual tension before the kiss, the kiss itself won't do any good.

Does a quarterback usually have success throwing the ball before he reads the field? No.

If you want to make sure your kiss attempts / moves are well received, simply lock down the rapport building

SnapSocialGuru · 2018-07-05T21:32:08+00:00

It's a mistake because it adds unnecessary pressure.

This pressure kills the spontaneity of the date. It kills the chemistry. She smells that you have an agenda. And girls hate when you've got an ulterior motive. It screams, "This guy can't relax. Why isn't he trying to just have fun and enjoy the vibe?"

Here's what I focus on in first dates:

Creating a solid connection.
Listening intently.
Teasing/playfulness.
Giving powerful, meaningful compliments (based on observations I make about her).
Having fun.

That's it. I know that if I have those things handled, the kiss + second date is INEVITABLE.

Hope that helps.

EDIT: Gonna go deep, but I'm on a train of thought. Usually, the guys who are eager to do "kino" are also the guys who are afraid to lose the girl. They think they must kiss her, make a move, get physical in order to move things forward. They're afraid that if they don't do any sort of physicality on the date, they will lose her. But that begs the question, why are you afraid to lose her? Why do you desperately need things to go a certain way? When you make any advancement, it should come from a place of enjoyment. Expressing your sexuality in a confident way. Not a way that is forced or that has an ulterior motive.

theFourthSinger · 2018-07-06T05:19:41+00:00

Personally, I always aim to have kissed them by AT LEAST the end of the night when I fist them.

WIA20XX · 2018-07-05T22:04:39+00:00

Unless you're a teenager, you should aim to get laid the first date.

That's why you don't agree to meet a girl for a weekday lunch, you do drinks at the best bar closest to your place.

Title	Should you always aim for a kiss on the fist date?
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Date	July 5, 2018 8:57 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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