TL;DR:

Got drunk and went to a club Friday night. Ended up getting 2 numbers one of which ghosted. Still learning but feeling more confident about all of this

Here is a little story about this past Friday night where I hit up this big club event. For the last few weeks or so I've been trying to avoid relying on a lot alcohol to have a good time and approach women however that night I decided to go a little crazy. I pregamed and Uber'd my way over and proceeded to mingle with the group I was meeting up with. Lately I've been feeling more social and drunk me is a whole different level of crazy so I was joking around a ton and talking up everyone. I'd say 1.5 hours of me just mingling pass and now I'm no longer thinking with my top head so I proceed to start looking for women.

I ended up talking to this one woman who lives 50 minutes away from me but she is cool so we proceed to dance. As we continue to grind on each I proceed to grab her by her waist and turn her towards me and go in for the kiss. I've had a ton of success with that move and we passionately make out on the floor for awhile. Eventually she walks outside to meet up with her friends and I walk out with her. One of her friends is cuffed up with another guy so it's just me, her, and two of her friends. I immediately regret walking out with her because now I'm stuck with this group. I attempt to make conversation with the group but I feel weird so say fuck it and just go back inside to dance some more. I know bad move but hey I was drunk and I wanted to dance some more / pick up more women.

I got cool with one of the dudes in the club and he invites me to an after party. I ride over with the group and we proceed to drink and just hangout. It's a mixed group and at this time of the night I'm not really trying to hit on anyone. There is this one really cute chick that came along but I assumed she was with one of the guys. While playing cards of humanity I strike up a conversation with her where I find out she went to a rival school. I'm talking shit to her trashing her school and just being overall very cool and fun. Like I mentioned earlier I wasn't even worrying about women at this point I was just hanging out with a fun group of new people. We talk some more throughout the night and she asked me for my number. I give her my number and she then asks me to text / call her and in my mind that is a signal that she really wants to see me again.

After I text her we get back to the game and I continue to hangout with the group for another hour or so before I decided to head home. I've texted both women since I didn't get a reply when I asked the 1st girl out which I sorta expected after I ditched her to go dance. The 2nd girl I'm aiming to see sometime this week. This past year I've had terrible luck with connecting with women / landing second dates but I feel like that is about to change. I've become less outcome dependent and no longer obsessing over making sure the woman has a good time so I can see her again. Sure that be nice if I actually like to see her again but if she chooses to "reject" me I'll no longer take it personal and simply move on to the next. I'm still a work in progress but I'm no longer crippled by the fear rejection which should allow me to express myself better, be more relaxed on dates, and let my confidence shine through.

Dating in this day and age can be pretty rough but from everything I've studied / read recently the key to getting better is to keep going. Just remember to learn from your mistakes though I have done the same shit for 2 years now and have just now starting holding myself accountable instead of blaming the women I've met who have ghosted me.