How do I become the kind of girl a guy is head over heels for?

Regulatorss_mount_up · 2018-08-05T14:00:03+00:00

I don't think it's that simple. Do you truly want all guys to feel that way about you? As a guy, there are definitely girls who are in a category that says "no one's type". These women are extremely attractive, super outgoing, flirt with anyone and don't really seem like the type of woman to ever settle for any man. I guess if that is the type of woman you want to be, then it's easy, assuming you are already attractive and have that type of personality (can be an issue if you were a late bloomer in HS).

I feel like sometimes women try to hard to put out a vibe that says "come get me, I'm ripe for the taking" but then when men show up in droves, they are shocked at what type of man shows up (rarely the kind you want to spend more than an hour with).

I know this sounds weird, but be yourself, dress how you feel comfortable, try to put yourself in situations where you could meet someone that might have similar interests as you. If you enjoy drinking at such, i guess a bar might be one of those types of places. If you are a fitness nut, hang out at the gym and strike up a conversation with someone. Maybe sports are your thing, join a coed team and then hang out after games with them, assuming they are single of course.

I guess I'm old fashioned in a sense. The younger generation has grown up not fully understanding how to interact with the opposite sex. With instagram, facebook (maybe less on this than others), snapchat, young adults are able to put pieces of themselves out there with very quick feedback but little real interaction with anyone. Posting a picture that is somewhat staged doesn't really show much about who you are or get you real feedback from anyone you might want to date. Having face to face conversations is tough because of this or the old "talking on the phone until after midnight" with a girl/guy you liked, falling asleep while you are on the phone with them is definitely a thing of the past.

Don't assume that you know exactly what you want out of a guy, especially if you are putting out a general vibe. I didn't know what i wanted until she was right in my face.

The biggest thing is to not give up hope ever of finding the right person for you, don't settle for someone that just wants you for a part of who you are. If someone is unable to take all your parts as a whole, they are not worth it in my opinion. Good/Bad, the right person will be there with you no matter what. They will be there to hug and hold you when times are the roughest. They will be there smiling and laughing with you when times are great.

Don't focus on letting someone find you, be active in finding them too, this is key, everyone likes to be found, but sometimes being the finder isn't so bad.

damfries · 2018-08-03T20:03:13+00:00

Make them seek your approval. Let them do things for you but acknowledge 1/10 of them. Always be ambiguous, never make your intentions clear.

People want what they can’t have. If your goal is for guys to want you, go ahead and do these things. 90% of men will fall for it, but those who hate playing games will not.

Think hard about it. Is this what you want? Or would you rather focus on being the best version of you and learning how to open yourself up so that people see it? The latter is far more difficult, even if it sounds intuitive. The former just requires you to understand social dynamics and learn to manipulate people, which is simple enough.

judahman8 · 2018-08-03T23:16:03+00:00

Attractiveness is the single determining factor for guys and girls. How attractive a girl finds a guy is divided into 5 things fairly equally. Physical appearance, confidence, personality, social value and survival value. A combination of these things is how a girl determines how attractive she finds a guy so we have to do a good job of improving these traits and knowing how to show them off.

Now for girls it's actually a lot simpler because guys are pretty simple. A girl is divided into physical appearance and personality. We don't really care about a girls survival value or confidence when it comes to how attracted to women we are and your social value is toed into your looks so much that its baisically irrelevant. You won't usually find guy that won't date a girl because she doesn't have a job or something, or because she's shy and doesn't take the lead. It could happen but it would be an anomaly.

For girls, attractiveness is not evenly divided amongs those 2 things tho. Its roughly 70% physical appearance, 30% personality. So if you are a 10 in looks and you have a no personality and no social value then you will still be at least an 8 in overall attractiveness. Now I know it seems kinda fucked up but this is just how our biology works, it's no one's fault.

I can go into how this shapes our entire society but I won't bore you with that just because I find it very interesting. Instead I will answer your question straight up. Go to the gym and build your leg muscles and glutes up as much as possible. That's all it takes to attract a lot more men. A good workout regimen that targets your ass and legs.

But just because this is how things work doesn't mean you shouldn't try to have the best personality possible obviously. Try new things and be social. It's going to just make life more enjoyable in general.

DontWorryBeHappyMan · 2018-08-03T21:34:06+00:00

Easy, be feminine !!

Be pretty, in good shape, clean, take good care of yourself, have nice hair, be fun and open, friendly.

Not feminist ! Dont be like Lena Dunham. Frumpy, out of shape, bad hair, bad style., SJW, man hater. She’s the opposite of what you wanna go for.

Guys are simple, we like pretty women who have feminine qualities.

crabzillax · 2018-08-04T10:06:24+00:00

Look like you're impossible to talk to (you do this by look and attitude), and if you know what type of guy you want just make it clear that you're the same style/in the same tribe.

Some alpha with same interests will come to you pretty fast.

thedayisbreaking · 2018-08-04T15:47:49+00:00

The adventurous and fun loving personality that pizza image shows is a good start.

Jokes aside, be you. If you truly want a guy to fall head over heels for ya then ya gotta be true to who you are. If you're just putting on a show to try and catch a guys attention then the guy you catch will be attracted to that show. It's impossible to keep that going forever.

Live YOUR life. Cheers

a_weak_child · 2018-08-05T03:53:11+00:00

Just think about qualities that you see attractive in others, and try and do those things yourself. Don't be afraid to be weird, if it is something you are confident in.

AnonymousADC · 2018-08-03T21:27:25+00:00

The first thing you have to do its fixing your inner game

Wtf you are saying you feel awkward and dorky... improve your self esteem.

First have confidence,improve and accept yourself

jumpingjerks · 2018-08-03T20:07:30+00:00

Try and be good looking. I’d get plastic surgery if I were you

Title	How do I become the kind of girl a guy is head over heels for?
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Date	August 3, 2018 7:55 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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