I don't know if I screwed this one up ? inexperienced

WIA20XX · 2018-08-24T18:23:10+00:00

WIA does not bullshit anyone. So if you find my words harsh, please block me.

TL DR is that you need to be proactive all the time, in every situation. Being proactive would have prevented this awkward moment that you put yourself in.

Your real shot at this chick was back at the party.

As far as your self esteem excuse, and that's what it is, a story you tell yourself to keep from taking action.

You probably haven't hit your emotional breaking point (aka enough is enough) that forces you to go all out.

Vast majority of people don't. That's why they live lives of quiet desperation.

On the technical tip -

You were looking for signs.
She gave them to you.
You failed to act.
You probably screwed it up, but not definitely.

The best you can do for this one girl is Google restart texts, or do a fucking search (DAFS) on Reddit. I wouldn't expect much, but you miss every shot you don't take.

The problem that you have her is bigger than failing to act on obvious signs, but waiting for chicks to give you signs.

That's a huge problem on this board, and going from reaction to action is one of the first steps that takes you from chump to champ.

This "passivity of the male" problem is common.

Guys are always looking for permission from a girl, detected from some insignificant detail in her body language and behavior.

She flipped her hair.
She bit her lip.
She stood 45 centimeters closer than a normal person would.
She gave me eye contact but then She stared and then looked up, down, to the right, at her watch, into the stars....

Waiting for Haley's Comet shit.

You are the man, you have to initiate the interaction and lead.

From time to time, for average guys, a girl might start a woman to man interaction, but even if she says Hi first, it's still YOUR job to make the shit actually happen.

You claim to be social in your post, if you were social, you would have talked to her and everyone else at the venue. EVERYONE.

Learn this lesson of being proactive, and you don't really need to learn a lot of game.

Title	I don't know if I screwed this one up ? inexperienced
Author	griddev
Upvotes	1
Comments	4
Date	August 24, 2018 5:53 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/99zltc/i_dont_know_if_i_screwed_this_one_up_inexperienced/
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