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5 ESSENTIAL Tips to Develop High CORE Confidence

RayMilano009

August 26, 2018

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Title	5 ESSENTIAL Tips to Develop High CORE Confidence
Author	RayMilano009
Upvotes	2
Comments	3
Date	August 26, 2018 11:56 AM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/9af0kl/5_essential_tips_to_develop_high_core_confidence/
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[–]GodOfFissures 1 point2 points3 points 7 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

[–]RayMilano009[S] 1 point2 points3 points 7 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link

The best way to get rid of the fear with girls is to go out a lot and talk to many girls. Over time, you realize that it's just not a big deal. Me saying that won't have as much of an impact as you experiencing it. I don't believe there is any way around that. When any guy starts out talking to girls, there's going to be more fear and more failure because they're not good at flirting, holding a conversation, and taking. As you practice more, you'll get better and better if you keep learning from your mistakes through every interaction you have with people. One thing that I realized about rejection is that it is good for me. Once I get rejected about 5 times from 5 different girls, it's like the worst has already happened. What more damage can be done? You just learn to let go every single time and as long you're physically fine, it's all good.

I hope this helps. :)

[–]Dichotopotamus2 points 7 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link

I'm with you. I still have some confidence problems depending on the situation, unlike at work where I feel like I have so much more control over that game. However, with women, you don't have as much control due to the subjective nature of social interactions. Just as you say, girls are not something you can learn due to each person being different. So how does one overcome this? Resilience.

As trite as it is, you already know that you miss 100% of the shots you don't take. The answer for you is to not let the failures take away from your progress, nor to allow them to damage your self worth. This is way easier said than done, and trust me, I know exactly how you feel. What you need to do is build up that resilience with some successes, but they are always surrounded by failures. My advice to you is to seek out some social challenges and overcome them, then revisit your approach with women.

My social challenge, for example, was just last week when I took a private dance lesson for the first time. I was embarrassed to start, and it didn't help that the instruction was a very sexy latina, but I felt accomplished afterwards and it was an awesome experience for my social anxieties.

I think that could also be a good challenge for you, but also, consider others. For example, this week I'm committing to asking 1 coworker to lunch (male or female - doesn't matter) just to exercise them there social skillz. (no complaining about work though). Another challenge is just introduce yourself to ONE person per week. Male or Female. Don't underestimate the value of being social with your fellow brothers too. You can learn from ANY social situation. And that makes you more confident, more tactful, and much better at socializing with, and attracting, WOMEN.

See what works and what doesn't. But you have to be resilient no matter what it is you challenge yourself with. Just make sure you take on a social challenge of some kind. The more confident you feel about YOURSELF in social situations, the more easily you will accept failures when talking with girls, because you will know without a doubt that 1 hour later, an even better experience awaits.