Recently a girl I'm interested in (and have obviously flirted with) invited me out for a first date. Result! She hasn't told me what she has planned but I think there is an event on that she wants to go to (I'd enjoy it too).

So two common pieces of advice in this community are (in this instance) conflicting.

  1. The guy leads. I should be the one demonstrating my confidence and value by selecting the venues and driving the evening forward. Makes sense.
  2. You want to be in a position where the girl is chasing. Her asking me out shows that she is invested and makes my job easier. Great!

At the moment I plan on accepting the invite and will tell her to meet me earlier, then pepper the evening with fun 'diversions'. Go for to trendy cocktail bar with pool table > walk through park > stop at cool veggie restaurant > arrive at her event, find some privacy and enjoy the evening together > profit

Cheers