When I think back to my past sexual encounters, there are so many times where I didn't initiate a makeout or anything further because I saw myself thinking that I was getting sex from the girl. All these questions would pop into my head:

"What if she doesn't like me enough to have sex with me?"

"Have I built enough comfort to makeout with her yet?"

When running game on a girl it's very easy to see what you're doing as trying to charm the girl for sex.

The big problem with this is that you're thinking "how can I take value away from this girl" as opposed to "how can I add value to this girls life".

Sex isn't something that should be gotten from a girl, it's an experience that you should share with one another; she wants it just as much as you.

Stop trying to whoo the girl into bed, and start thinking how you can make her time with you more fun for the both of you.

If you come from a value giving mindset, it completely eliminates insecurities about approaching, initiating and kino.