Recently I got a realization about what happens when we don't take action to develop the essential life skill for meeting and attracting women.

Let's imagine the average Joe who doesn't do cold approach and is flirting with Jenny from work. Since he doesn't have options and she probably has a boyfriend, he has troubles getting her. Basically he doesn't have a way to satisfy his sexual needs besides masturbation, which massively hurts his confidence.

Additionally, he might spend some amount of time at work and at home thinking about or trying not to think about Jenny which takes away from his focus and will power. Thus, his self awareness decreases and his ability to do great at work. This further spirals down his confidence and he finds himself cutting away his sleep to catch up on work from home but later being unable to properly focus at work, because he is too tired. Furthermore, this causes him great stress and his health starts to take some hits as well.

As a result his life becomes smaller and smaller and his brain shrinks and his health and life fall apart until one of these two outcomes happen:

  1. He completely falls off and gets fired from his job, then becomes a drug or alcohol addict.
  2. He wakes the fuck up and takes responsibility for meeting his own sexual needs by joining the dating game. Then, he regains his focus, self-awareness and ability to navigate life with intention.

Basically, 1) is a downward spiral and 2) is an upward spiral. I've been in 1) for the past 5 months and just recently started the painful but healthy transitioning towards 2).

Please guys! Be aware of this and take control of your lives!