Hi guys, I'm not a native English speaker so this post won't be perfectly written, I'm sorry about it. I'm also sorry about the length too but I wanted to be specific, it's something that stresses me a lot and that I would like to solve definitively. Thank you all in advance if you'll read it all, I'd really appreciate it.

I don't know this girl in person but it's like 5 years that I like what she posts on Facebook (we are friends on FB because we both live in a small town and it was common years ago to add people you barely knew), and I've found myself to think about her quite often.

I finally decided some months ago to like one of her posts and use it as an excuse to message her via private chat and start talking about that particular topic, which was related about important decisions in life (she was struggling and so was I). She answered my message and we started talking about our path, what is better to do, what do we like, why we made some decisions etc. I felt like she was interested in the conversation because she replied with long messages and at least I have the certainty that I didn't look like an idiot (which was the main reason I didn't want to use Facebook, but find her in real life was impossible so I went for it). Then the conversation moved towards an end and I made a joke but she didn't reply. I didn't say anything else, I didn't want to be that kind of guy, I accepted it.

This all happened around June. In August, I decided to give it another try and told her "Have you come to any conclusion?" Regarding the topic we were talking about (make the best decision for our lives), but she never replied. Maybe initially because I think she doesn't have messenger on her phone so she has to take her computer in order to use the messages, but some time later she visualized it.

A normal person wouldn't even bother with this at this point, but the fact is that I don't do this kind of stuff at all anymore (just when I was 15/16), so the fact that I still think about her makes me aware of my great (maybe stupid, who knows) interest towards this girl and I think I should make the last try. She has changed uni (the thing we were talking while we chatted) so I thought that maybe it was a really stressful period for her and this could have added to the reasons why she didn't reply, a guy was not in her interest at that moment. Plus I have one recent photo of me now, which I didn't have at that time.

What can I do? I don't wanna over think about this anymore, I don't wanna her to pop up in my mind anymore, I want to cut it. If I was really honest I would tell her "I know that a guy randomly appearing in a chat isn't the best way of approaching someone and that these things are normally done at 15 yo, but I really like the content you publish and i was also very interested in exchanging opinions about that particular topic. I know this may sound really weird due to the people that normally do this kind of stuff, but... would you like to take a coffe with me?" or something like that. Maybe it's too explicit but at least I would tell her the truth. I don't know if at this point sending her another "normal message" would be effective, but I think I risk being judged as an idiot (or needy, or boring/not so interesting because "i have to" catch girls on Facebook), but again... What else could I do given the fact that I want to try it for the last time? Any suggestions?