Good looking but boring?

LingeringGnome · 2018-10-27T21:15:54+00:00

but it seems whenever I talk too much my attractiveness goes way down.

this is actually very common. It all depends on your frame.

For example. Brought a chick back from a club one night. We slept together and the whole next week she drunk snaps me, texts, etc. next week rolls around and she BEGS me multiple times to go to a hockey game with her and friends. So I show up and we chat for a bit and after the game she says she’s going back to her place to get changed and will meet me at the bars. I then got ghosted and she deleted my snap😂

a couple things could've happened there. Most definitely other male orbiters.

That’s a more extreme example, but seems to show a pattern, I’m attractive when aloof, but seem to mess up the talking parts, I guess I’m just boring, or I lower my “mysterious ness”. Any thoughts or advice to similar stories?

PS: And I don’t think it’s my voice, I’ve been told I have a good one

Don't talk so much. If you're a good looking guy who's chill, that will go over way better than a good looking guy who is spazzy and talks too much. So, so many Youtube videos have pickup artists who never shut the fuck up. Notice how they lean into the woman, can't stop talking? They're in the feminine role there, acting submissive. It doesn't work IRL unless you're a celebrity.

For example, I've been told I'm a good looking guy. But in my 20's,, I did not have my emotional-centered part down AT ALL. And it killed me. I could pretty much make out with who I wanted, but it would never last. As I slowly improved my bedroom game, improved my emotional game, and added solid muscle, things REALLY took off. Like, LAUGHABLY took off.

As a 40 year old I do better with 20-something than I did as a 20-something, lol. Last night I was out at a club/sports bar watching the excellent World Series game. I just sat there, talked to no one and enjoyed the game. But I did purposely sit next to the dance floor. As the evening wore on, women would come up to me and ask me to dance. I rejected all of them as not my type, not on my level. Typically, if a woman wants you and the bar is inching closer to close, she'll make a move. And a woman I was eyinge a bit (hot uni-body skeleton costume, 24 year old). I texted my gf (who's out of town with family), and she gave me a green light. The woman in the skelelton uni-body literaly had her hands all over me (women will ALWAYS initiate kino when you have nice arms and shoulders. ALWAYS). She invited me to a party, but I went home and ate mac and cheese instead, read my Kindle, and crashed.

My point? When you hit on all the levels (emotional control, not needy, playful, fit, experienced in bedroom skills) women literally FEEL it coming off you. You literally have to DO NOTHING but stand there like a bull elk until one of them gets aggressive enough. That's the level YOU can get to. And it's fucking hilarious. women can be horny little monsters.

My advice to you is that the good looking Ken doll vibe is not enough. Keep improving in all areas. And like I said, I do much better now with 20-somethings as a 40 year old man with a shaved head, muscles, and a very secure and chill frame than I did as a chatty Ken Doll in my 20's.

Lndbrghwrstlr · 2018-10-27T18:19:42+00:00

Are you talking about yourself the whole time you're with them? Are you talking about them the whole time your with them? There's too many variables to know just from this post but try to make sure your conversations are having good ebs and flows. Ask questions to get them to share a story. Relate your personal experiences to a story they share. Rinse and repeat.

ikeurbantraut · 2018-10-28T00:38:04+00:00

That’s some Dan Bilzerian stuff right there😂 One Day

I’m speaking it into existence now😂

dailymanup · 2018-10-31T07:31:01+00:00

I suggest you check out the book Make Women Chase You. This book heavily emphasizes making fun, engaging and challenging conversation with women -- including completely written out conversation examples to demonstrate the techniques. Everything you need to talk to chicks, get them interested, keep them interested and keep yourself mysterious. Worth a read. Definitely tackles the "boring" problem.

Title	Good looking but boring?
Author	ikeurbantraut
Upvotes	4
Comments	6
Date	October 27, 2018 6:11 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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