I'm incredibly irritated

krazykoo · 2015-01-26T05:05:37+00:00

I think I am in a similar situation currently, but not entirely the same. Currently if you have one plate, you need another---ASAP. This will help solve a few of these issues. Of course, that's easier said than done when starting out. I've been telling myself i need a second plate for 3 weeks now without any success, and I know the longer I wait, the more danger I'll be in.

frequentlywrong · 2015-01-25T12:22:15+00:00

And I still laughably hold the notion of not wanting to be a loser.

That's all the motivation I ever had. Having a clear idea who I do NOT want to be.

at the same time I don't have the ambition or perhaps simply the imperative to try harder to acquire that "more."

It does not come easy to anyone. First you need to decide what to do, then you need to force yourself to do it. I recommend taking up brazillian jiu jitsu. Martial arts build character. They build confidence. They literally make boys into men. It may sound like a cliche, but it is 100% true. Much more so than the standard advice given here to lift weights.

teeelo · 2015-01-25T10:52:41+00:00

My friend, most of us on Reddit are 'Losers'

After reading this you may find some peace knowing that even if you are a loser, at least you're not clueless, or a sociopath.

IRiseFromTheAshes · 2015-01-26T05:02:44+00:00

Your mentality is fucked up.

But again the problem is that I'm a fucking loser! I'm not even seeking other women, the thought of approaching women is still something I fear. And so I've reverted to my complacent tendencies, and here's why. I've grown up poor, but with my basic necessities met. I'm used to not asking for more because my parents could never provide more, and yet, at the same time I don't have the ambition or perhaps simply the imperative to try harder to acquire that "more." And I still laughably hold the notion of not wanting to be a loser. I know my time on this planet is transient but instead of getting my shit together I squander it on literally masturbating myself to death.

Feeling like a loser is total perception. Even the most successful people on earth can feel like losers, while scumbag credit fraudsters feel on top of the world. If you feel like you're complacent, do something about it. Get off your ass and do whatever you think you're depriving yourself of (finding a job, going to the gym, whatever).

I know now without a doubt: daily masturbation is detrimental to the male energy. If I had masturbated today I would not be up writing this. I would not be giving a single fuck about anything, not even myself. Maybe I'm irritated from dopamine withdrawal or just a spike in testosterone but this is the first night in weeks where I've felt this angry and alive.

What is this horseshit? I mean it's one thing to sit in bed all day jerking off until you're raw. But actively restricting how much you masturbate and letting it impact your self esteem when you give in? That's just stupid. If you get an urge, bang one out in 5 minutes and get on with your day, don't give it a 2nd thought. Focus your discipline and restraint on things that actually matter, like your studies / work.

I wish one of you guys would come to my house and fight me, even if I get beat to a bloody pulp I wish I had someone to scream at the top of their lungs that I'm a useless, passive, faggot who does nothing but waste his time on nothing. But as much as I would like that I know that that motivation has to come from within. It's difficult and yet very simple at the same time.

What is this, fight club? Do some push-ups, run around the block, listen to some good music, anything other than this pointless self-deprecation.

Your rant doesn't seem to be based on anything. What is causing all this frustration? Maybe you need a therapist to sort out your issues.

NastyParlourTrick · 2015-01-25T06:50:32+00:00

What? Why do you need our criticism, or anything from us? Get over your anxiety, your fear, and your desperation. TRP is about improving yourself.

I don't care about your "confession of weakness". Get over it, be a god damn man, that's something you might not have heard in a while.

SkorchZang · 2015-01-25T07:30:23+00:00

Alright, story time.

Once upon a time, in a kingdom far away, there lived a young king. Had a castle and a court, like any king should. In his court, he had three main minions, who provided most of his daily entertainment, so much so that all he did most days was sit on his throne and watch their antics.

The three minions were called Judge, Victim, and Mr. Fixit. He had others too, but those three were the main men of the court. Let's introduce them!

Judge was a harsh fellow. His job was to look down upon villains, spot when people were being lazy, wasting the King's treasury, and nobody in the entire land was safe from being judged by him. He'd judge them, and put the case before the king, usually making the king sad.

Victim was Judge's best friend, a truly pathetic fellow. Victim's job was to be offended, especially when some injustice was found by Judge, Victim was never far away - always ready to suffer from the gross injustice, negligence, and stupidity of other people. Victim danced pathetic dances and made sad faces, usually making the king sad too.

But sometimes Victim made the king feel angry, and roused him from the throne. That's when Mr. Fixit always appeared in the court. Fixit was dressed in imperturbable armor, and had heroic features about him. A giant sword tucked away at his side. Tough gloves for HANDLING SHIT, because that's what his job was - when Judge and Victim were done with their show, Fixit would come out and make like he's going to save the day. The king usually calmed and sat back down, then.

So it went day in and day out, Judge constating the hopeless faults of the world that refused to change and be good, like it's supposed to be in a glorious kingdom such as ours; Victim crying that because of this, he is again maligned and left without sustenance, Mr. Fixit showing up with his sword and bossy voice to HANDLE SHIT. Then the Judge would spot some problems with what Fixit had resolved to do, the Victim popped out of the woodwork to cry about how difficult it is nowadays to keep up for a frail creature like him, then Fixit would attack Victim with the sword to HANDLE SHIT. But instead of fallling over, Victim only cried more, and now Judge started judging this injustice again...

They were a team. The three played off each other, in endless variations that always repeated the same exact themes.

The king always sat on the throne and watched them, like figures on a movie screen, transfixed and helpless. When he saw the Judge, he felt like a judge. When Victim came out, the king's heart went out to the fellow at once. Fixit provided relief when the king felt outraged over these performances and was about to leave the throne and go somewhere... but behold! The saviour is here, so you can sit right down, your royal highness. The king always did.

Judge, Victim, Fixit. Watch as they hold hands, and bow happily for you, another performance well done! Another day just like any other at the king's court. The supreme trio will never be out of a job, as long as the king doesn't realize he can put an end Judging, Victiming and Fixit-ing. In order to move, sovereign and unrestricted, beyond the pantomime and into his true realm, where the king's own actions and not mental performances rule the day.

"No, Judge. Calm down, it is what it is, and I'll do what I want. I am King, my ways are Unjudgeable.

No, Victim. Stop your crying, your pain is vulgar, not interesting. I am King Unvictimus, nothing gets to me, I have no pity even for myself, how would I cry at your pitifulness?

No, Fixit, put away the sword, for that's a sign of disrespect in this court. I don't need you, a dramatic actor, to HANDLE SHIT... for in this kingdom, I alone am sovereign."

Title	I'm incredibly irritated
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Comments	9
Date	January 25, 2015 5:20 AM UTC (11 years ago)
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