I like shy quiet girls but I think I intimidate them, how do I be more approachable?

Soultrane9 · 2015-01-26T12:29:42+00:00

Nobody will approach you. Especially not shy girls.

If your question is how how to make a girl comfortable who is being intimidated by you: slow and steady talk. Take your time to think your answers, hold 1-2 second pauses between sentences. Talk while facing away and keep eye contact while you are waiting for her to speak. Don't use kino, be on the edge of her personal space. Not too close, not too far.

Shit's called the Daddy vibe.

TheRedPillHawk · 2015-01-26T14:24:19+00:00

I'm not exactly a pussy-slayer who's got it all figured out, but why would you even wanna be approachable to shy quiet girls?

What you need to be is approaching.

Girls want to fuck men who could protect them well, show them you have confidence.

You didn't mention anything about your appearance. They find you intimidating? Good, if you can intimidate her you can intimidate her enemies too. On the other hand, if it's more the creepy sort of intimidation you should just forget it for now and work on that.

I would advise to think about what you wanna do to her, and if there are any steps you have to add in between so she won't feel too rushed. What's your initial goal? Getting her number maybe? Then confidently approach her and work your way to your goals.

Be confident that everything you suggest to her is a very good idea. Don't be too courteous. Don't ask for her permission for anything. Don't apologize. You don't need her to make decisions, she needs you for it. Make decisions for her.

You want to hit the sweet spot where she is neither too intimidated (->flight) nor too bored (->rejection) of you.

If she is shy around you, she is likely to perceive herself as lower SMV than you. Once she learns the intimidating guy could actually intimidate for her you could be in.

But what do I know? Last time I spoke to a shy girl was years ago.

Title	I like shy quiet girls but I think I intimidate them, how do I be more approachable?
Author	Chilezen
Upvotes	1
Comments	5
Date	January 26, 2015 7:18 AM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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