As a guy [25] anytime I am out of a relationship, be it an LTR, FWB, or whatever, it feels like my sex life is completely in the hands of others. Sex is important to me, as it is to most people. But when I do not have a reliable partner and facing a dry spell it can really take its toll on me mentally. I go out and approach and talk to girls with interests other than just sex. I dont mean to sound cliché bit it feels like it is in the girl's power to deem me worthy or not and all to often I am deemed not. I don't pedestalize women by any means. It is frustrating though when I have a decent amount to offer a girl and she acts as if it isn't enough. And then the cycle continues until someone sees me as "worthy" (excuse the phrase).

So how do you keep a sense of control over your sex life even if it may seem like you don't?