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[–]EazyTiger666 1 point2 points3 points 7 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Move on in both cases. 2. Sounds like she just wanted casual sex.
[–]leddituser123 1 point2 points3 points 7 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Well my opinion is that there's no reason to burn the bridges but i will be doing less effort for them if it doesn't work out.
Well i want casual sex too but i have more to offer than that and i wanted to take her out on a date before i bang her. But more importantly i don't want to be a dog she calls with a whistle whenever she wants sex.
[–]J_A_B_88 2 points3 points4 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Less effort is ideal. Don't become the texting buddy. You know your value and only give it if they deserve it.
[–]J_A_B_88 1 point2 points3 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
In my opinion it seems like you're over investing. You're having full out conversations through text with them. Save it for after you've gone on a few dates with them and they're invested. Keep it simple in the beginning, text to set up dates, and maybe a little small talk here and there.
[–]metalkhan 1 point2 points3 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You're over investing.
First girl, if she has a boyfriend. Fine. Why not just chill and be friends with her instead of worrying yourself with whether or not she'll date you now or a week from now. If I approach a girl and she tells me she a boyfriend, my usual next response is "do you wanna be friends?" And I mean it, I genuinely want to be friends with her, especially now that I know the possibility of rejection is pretty much gone. I'm just gonna goof around with and entertain myself, she's off the market so have fun, victory might be gone but so has defeat.
I'm not gonna check in constantly to she if she still has a boyfriend. That's her business, go get your own, meet new people.
Second girl, sorry but kinda had a chuckle when you said you didn't want to get into her frame ..when clearly you already are, you are in reaction to her. Choosing not to ask her out is as much a reaction as if you did. Don't give give her an ultimatum, (I've made this mistake as well) it's low status, I know it doesn't seem like it is, but it is. You don't have to dump her, especially if you like the sex, but stop reacting to her. If you're feeling like a dog it's cause you're playing the part, running to her when she calls. Take some responsibility.
The next time she calls you, just don't fucking go. Tell her if she wants to see you again, she has to work for you. If she invites you out, ask her which restaurant she's taking you to. If she doesn't like it, who the fuck cares? Move on with your life, if she treats you like shit, she isn't worth your time.
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