Matched with a girl last week on Tinder, and I shot her a standard opening message about a dog in her profile pic. She takes a long time to respond, so I figure low interest and reply to her whenever I feel. The stuff we talk about is pretty mundane and boring, so I wasn't too into it anyways. A couple days pass, and we probably send like 3 messages to each other per day with large gaps in between, and I get a message from her at like 1:30am on a Saturday night.

Probably pretty obvious to you guys here, but if a girl starts messaging you late at night, she's probably thinking about you. Instead of waiting to reply, I got back to her immediately, and we ended up have a solid, flirty conversation until like 3am. Near the end, I asked her what she was up to, and she just said she was lying in bed, and browsing memes on insta. I asked for her number so she could send me some memes (can't send pics over tinder) and moved to text messages. Unfortunately, she couldn't send me pics over text for some reason (she was using iMessage and I'm on Android, dunno if that was the issue), and I just went to bed. This part is kinda important for later. Also, during this text conversation, I asked her out to grab a coffee on Tuesday afternoon, which she agreed to.

Tuesday rolls around and I meet her at the coffee shop. Things are good, but it's kind of packed, and she seems nervous when I try to touch her. We still have a good conversation for around an hour, but I'm not getting the physical escalation that I'm looking for (and to be honest, I'm pretty apprehensive about getting touchy in front of crowds too), so I tell her to come back to my car with me. When she asks why, I say it's because I want to see her dank memes from last weekend, but I don't want to people to judge us.

This is why I highlighted the meme thing from Saturday as kind of important. It was something we wanted to do before, but couldn't. It serves as a great excuse to isolate in a public space.

Anyways, we get back to my car, we lounge around in the back seats and she goes on insta to start showing me what she was looking at. Now that we're alone, I pull her in close so that he head is resting against my chest and my right arm is on her shoulder. For the next 20 minutes, we're just snuggling and giggling at stupid image macros while my right hand touches, brushes, squeezes her shoulder/arm, and occasionally make innocent brushes against her sideboob. My left hand rests on her outer thigh, but similarly works, moving towards her inner thigh, seeing if she will open her legs slightly to let me in.

We eventually stumble upon a cheesy, romantic meme, and I use my right hand to cup her chin, turn her face towards me and go for the kiss. Pretty soon, we're making out in the back of my car, and then we head back to her place to do the deed.

Anyways, things to take away from this time for me was that was the abundance mentality does work. I think the fact that I made her wait for me to message her back was a good move at the start, instead of trying to grab her attention. The second thing that I learned was to keep something in your back pocket to help you isolate if you're not good at gaming in a public situation. This time it was the meme thing, but next time, I may choose to hang out with girls in a place where I know there is something fun and private to do nearby (ferris wheel, karaoke, a park with good scenery... etc). Even if you can't immediately isolate into sex, you have a good chance of getting a make out close and setting up for the finish next time. Another thing to note is to use the situation to your advantage. I went for the kiss when we saw a romantic meme that set the mood. In other situations, it will be something else. Make sure not to let the opportunity to kiss slip by. The last takeaway was that if a girl messages you late at night, just respond right away and see where it takes you.

This is good because usually girls will want to meet in a public place first just in case you're a creep, but once you establish a connection, they will be willing to go somewhere more private with you, which is when you make the move.

Honestly, I haven't had much success off of tinder (only my 2nd hookup through that app after casually using it for a year), so I'm hoping I can keep refining my technique now that I'm trying to get more serious about it. Feedback is appreciated, cheers all.