How you can change your reality and become more persistent without being needy

The age old dilemma of reconciling being persistent and being needy.

One of the biggest mistake guys make is that they are not persistent enough when they should be.

Girl refuses to follow you to the dancefloor/bar/outside away from her friends.

Girl says "I don't give my number out to strangers" when you ask for the number

Girl says "I'm not coming home with you tonight" when you try to pull

Girl says "I have to catch a bus/meet a friend/do XYZ" when you approach her in the daytime

Game over. Next set.

If you're doing this, then you're taking things personally and limiting your own success.

If you have a mindset along the lines of - "If she doesn't want to meet me, then it's not meant to be, I don’t want to meet her either," then you're taking things personally when you shouldn't be.

Keep in mind that these girls you're speaking to through cold approach have no idea who you are.

A lot of the times when you approach them on the streets/bar/club etc, their subconscious mind just immediately classifies you with a stereotype - "one of those guys on the streets", "a fuck boy", "creepy drunk guys" etc.

Of course ideally if you're on this path of self development and learning how to talk to girls, you know how to work all the odds in your favor so most girls are actually excited by your approach.

However, so called "rejections" will still happen, and here is how you should be interpreting it:

When she gives an objection and "rejects you", she doesn't know what you're offering. She's rejecting her own interpretation of your approach, which is influenced by a variety of factors like past experiences, social conditioning, cultural values etc.

Maybe she thinks you just want to fuck her,

Or maybe every guy who she has met from the streets before has been a fucking creep.

She has absolutely not a fucking clue who you are and what kind of value you could bring to her life.

Girls WANT to meet a cool fucking guy who is self-assured and capable of handling the girl's bullshit.

I've had many instances where the girl walks away from me (what others would view as a rejection) in the club and me re-approaching them more than 5 times then taking them home at the end.

A high value, high self esteem, self-assured, attractive male would understand that and continue to give her more chances to see what he is about.

Because why the fuck would she not?

A non-needy man cannot do anything that is needy. If you're coming from the RIGHT PLACE (not NEEDing the result to happen to feel good, not letting the outcome affect your emotional state), you cannot be needy no matter how many times you try.

Here is an analogy to put everything into perspective

If Steve Jobs, one of the most successful people in modern history, wanted to hire someone, and the person refused his offer, would he give up at the first attempt?

Or would he keep persisting because he knows what he has to offer is valuable?

Steve jobs' value would remain unchanged no matter how many times he tries to persist.

So next time you get rejected, for you and the girl's sake, give both of you a chance and persist!

Chen City bitch

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