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Why is one of my friends getting so much attention immediately at the party...

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November 26, 2018

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Title	Why is one of my friends getting so much attention immediately at the party...
Author	[deleted]
Upvotes	8
Comments	21
Date	November 26, 2018 3:16 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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Nah. Just because you find your friend attractive doesn't mean chicks do.

I absolutely agree. This is because women care far less about looks than we always try to think. even though he is one of those guys looking like he´s out of a catalogue for mens clothing.

Furthermore, you say all of those things about yourself yet women find you attractive meaning this is pure down talk. You're probably far better than him in terms of looks.

If you put behavior and body language into looks, this might be true...

Me I'm 5'5" well dressed, muscular visibly, full head of hair and not really sociallly retarded. I'm confident to the extent where i can do about 200+ approaches cold and number close 60% the time. I don't get anything. Nada. Indicating it isn't my ability to talk but how attractive I am otherwise I'd not be able to close these girls. All I get is dead or uninterested numbers.

I have a hypothesis for this: Based on common knowledge, womens attraction works different from us men. Of course they can get crazy about a guy who "is soooo cute" based ob their looks, only to then get the feeling he´s not what they look for. I have a long time female friend, and she started dating a lot of different guys after she broke up with her long term boyfriend of 18 years. The thing was, that the two guys she stayed with, for more than 2 years each, were not what you and I would call good looking. Both of them had mental issues, and were heavy drug users. I remember the first guy doing speed at noon, one time, while I was helping out setting up a big commercial party he and her were organizing. He mentioned how he was unable to get through the day without a line... In the end she was always comlaining about how he was behaving like a baby and a drama queen constantly, only to break up, and get together with him again soon after. She mentioned how she got crazy hot by his lower arms. He was in general looking like a junky, very slim but because of that, with defined arms.

Anyway, I was going somewhere with this: One night, she invited me to get a drink at her place before a party night with friends, so I went to her place and met a guy I would call really handsome. A guy women call "hot" or "cute". While talking to him, I felt like he was a lying little bitch, self absorbed and dumb like shit. She was totally into this guy, constantly flirting with him and she invited him too, so she could hook up with him. Fast forwad a week or two, and I ask her about this guy, if something went on with him. I was very confused to hear the following sentence:"First I thought he was hot, I really wanted to get laid by him." "And did you?" "no, actually I felt so turned off by the way he talked and how dumb and self absorbed he was".

What does this tell us (this is the main point of my hypothesis)? Women love to dream about how a guy would be, based on how he looks and behaves. Have you ever read a erotic novel for women? no? you should. concentrate on the details how men are described. The first part is always some superficial manly markers like: "His strong hands", "his masculine face" among others. Then it continues with 80% how he behaves, what he says, and how she feels about it. See the problem with looks? It does not matter for more than making her open to meet you.

Looks matter a whole lot than you think mate.

I get where you are coming from. You have been brainwashed by society that women are like men in terms of attraction. But they aren´t. They have never been. If you had enough women in your life, the ones you call friend, and get real close to hear what they say about men they date or hook up with, you would understand that it´s all about her feelings, and how he makes her feel.

So. Maybe this helps you a little to understand the underlying problem. Here´s a little summary of what I do: My mindest is that women are people, no matter how hot she looks. I approach a woman that sparks my interest based on her clothing, faical features or behavior. I assume she is not special in any case, until she shows me otherwise. This way I am calm and relaxed. A few weeks ago, during a company event, a femal colleague told me she was wondering how I could always be so calm and collected, she called it "being deeply relaxed all the time no matter what". She is head of HR and has hired me not so long ago, and this was another great example of the strength of words. I got basically contacted by a female recruiter who is friends with her. My first Interview was a telephone call of 45 minutes where we basically flirted after 15 minutes. 5 minutes after that call, the recruiter calls me, and says "waht did you do to her?" when I asked what she meant, she mentioned how excited she was about me, something that she says really rarely happens. Long story short, a week later and 2 rushed interviews in the company with the technical staff and her, they send me the contract. Also, wherever I go, I like to talk to people. Be it at restaurants or other places, and when I return, people treat me like a long term friend. Why is that? because of charme and charisma. I have learned that over the past 15 years, and it´s actually pretty easy. Just make it a habit to be polite (say thank you if someone is doing something for you), be fun, challenging and hold strong eye contact while smiling. Having a warm vibe helps alot, and flirt. Flirt with everyone.

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