Almost 37 and I have never approached a girl in my life

ThisUserIsAWIP · 2018-12-16T16:14:13+00:00

Okay this is my honest opinion. I'm 18 and male (I have approached women your age successfully, before the claim that I don't know what I'm saying) and I'm on the complete opposite of the spectrum. I can and do approach women constantly mainly to find sexual partners, but occasionally with serious intent and after sex most of them do become friends for at least a short time until they get jealous. I'm hoping to reach the point of my own business and while I have moved out I would love to live far from home. This is what I can teach you: to start try cold approaching other guys. Simple things like "hey man, nice tie" or "nice shoes I've been looking for a pair like that!" Overtime this will build your confidence in public and before you know it you'll see a girl with really pretty frizzy hair and it'll just slip out "you did a fantastic job with your hair this morning" you'll make her whole day. What a lot of guys do wrong is they do this shit once and expect the girl to be in their pants. No sir. Do it 100 times. Get your confidence up. You'll also start to accumulate cool little stories and conversations each time it happens and you'll start to understand that the people around you each have their own stories and lives. Which is one thing to know and another thing to understand. From that point on you'll find openers that work best to start conversation. For example, my name is pretty unique, I will walk up and say "Hey my name is ___, I bet you don't have that one in your PokeDex yet". Boom. Just made sure she liked pokemon and gave her my number in one swoop. From then on not only will she think of her phone as a PokeDex but she will also remember the encounter each time she sees something pokemon related. Both of which remind her of me. The more she thinks of you the higher your chances. I don't know, situational things. When bush died I tried " Did you see the fire in the bush outside? Nevermind it died" worked like 5 times. Women have a sense of humor too. Humanize them in your head and get yourself on the same level you hold them to in your head. Best wishes, feel free to reply with any questions!

lovemehate · 2018-12-16T11:37:35+00:00

and no this is not a "oh am good looking why can't i meet girls" bs i see so many people post.....Looks only get you so far if your a horrible/typical person inside.

I have no bad intentions EVER . I just want to be able to meet girls, don't really care if i even get their phone number or go on a date. just want to feel a bit more normal

HuntingTeckel · 2018-12-16T12:10:06+00:00

I know the feeling. I don't think I've ever walked up to a girl before. At 28 years old I don't think I've ever approached a stranger with the intention of trying to make a friend or girlfriend. That's why I sit at home by myself all the time. Like now, I have four days off from work and I'm hating every second of it.

That being said, if there is cause to talk to someone (Work related, or some other reason) I can. For instance, I was at the local Chili's sitting at the bar. My friends were in a conversation that I wasn't being included in so I zoned out, ordered a double whiskey and waited. When it arrived the lady next to me said that my glass had more than hers. After nodding and intending to not talk I opened my mouth and said the bartender thought I was prettier, as a joke. She laughed and we clinked glasses. As I put it to my mouth she said I was doing it wrong. She told me to clink glasses, tap the table with the glass and then take the shot. We talked on and off until my friends and I left.

Point is, if you see an opening, try to take it. I really hate doing it. I don't talk much. The manager at work said I'm the king of minding my own fucking business. Even though I hate it, I do try to speak up if I see any opening, even if I don't want to.

I find it helps to rehearse things in my head. I used to keep a notebook of responses to any given questions. It kind of helped me have a base if I had to get into a conversation. It's dumb. You'll feel dumb doing it, but it really helped me. I'm more than happy to try to help in any way I can because I know the feeling.

DajuanKev · 2018-12-17T01:53:17+00:00

Wait, so all of your girlfriends approached you?

scavbaby · 2018-12-17T08:36:50+00:00

I feel like you are giving yourself a mental blockade with meeting/socializing. I understand that this may be true for you, and its actually in the way.

How I would resolved this would to attempt to make the first step of thinking that this is not the case, think that you are a sociable person.

In the aspect of psychology, ones mental blockade could be very damaging to one’s self. In short, you are creating your own problem with yourself. Try to think that you do not have such issue, and it should improve over time.

I don’t know if I am wording it correctly, english is not my mother tongue. But hopefully you understands and it helps you!

Title	Almost 37 and I have never approached a girl in my life
Author	lovemehate
Upvotes	3
Comments	10
Date	December 16, 2018 11:25 AM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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