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[–]Chamizo4 3 points4 points5 points 7 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Go to have fun dude.
You're putting so much weight into approach a lot of girls and take them number.
In those kind of enviroments, thats repulsive as fuck for them.
Just have fun, they will come by themselves to you.
And to be fair, in the middle of the party, they gonna be super high or wasted, so it makes things easier I guess.
Btw, eye contact is super important in those kind of loud places.
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[–]KindlyVivid 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
Step away from that mentality for a second, I want to do my best to give specific advice.
What genre? And do you expect to thoroughly enjoy the music?
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[–]KindlyVivid 4 points5 points6 points 7 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Haha no shit, I'm goin to a dubstep concert alone in 2 days myself, also in a dance club setting. Anyways, long comment incoming;
This is gonna sound a bit vague, but spend all of tomorrow absorbing as much positive energy as you can and reverberate that back to everyone you encounter, whether it's on the dancefloor or in the slightly quieter bar area. Not to the point where it seems like you're "on one", but bring enough positive, intense energy so that no amount of negativety can take away your fun, and running into some is inevitable. Fun attracts fun brother, so you need to be able to cultivate yours with just you and the bass.
Pointers: 1. Dont drink too much, if at all. It murders your game and you will literally look like a dancing monkey every drop.
Speak less (with words). Be expressive!! Gestures speak much more, and be WIDE with each of them. And fucking smile. Dont forget to show the world you have teeth.
Stay off your phone. Dont even check the time. Phone is only for exchanging contact info: the fun is in front of you. On top of that, stay out of your head! If you find yourself drifting into thought, catch the rhythm of the music again, shoulder tap someone, chitchat the staff, ANYTHING. Just be present.
Create non-factual conversation with ANYONE in your vicinity when you're not being blasted with music; share EMOTIONS through stories. Not sure if you're going alone as well, but this helps to establish a "home base", and also gets you in a social mood if you dont have a friend base to back and forth with.
Dont be shy; when you direct approach off the dance floor, polarize ASAP. Moderate risk way: back and forth a few short sentences, step in a bit, put a hand on her shoulder WITHOUT LEANING (the lean is the wrong kind of invasive) and make a questionable statement about her, in a confident, sexual tone. It could be anything. "You look like a k dealer" was the line I used the last time I pulled a girl at a bass show. I've never touched ketamine in my life, but it got her hooked; either way, the point is to create a way for short banter to be passed back and forth and to KINO throughout it! If she is receptive (easy sign is smiling and eye contact), your hand should be on her elbow then the small of her back while the banter continues. Thats the most crucial escalation and can be accomplished when you haven't even spoken for 3 minutes. And dont look at your hand while doing it, MAINTAIN EYE CONTACT. Once you have a hand on the small of her back, maintain your frame and strong eye contact for a few seconds, then back pedal a step or two (dont fucking run into anyone lol), throw a "hand of god" to invite her to dance (literally stick an inviting hand out without saying anything) and throw in a neck nod towards the dance floor if you like.
Polarizing is important because you need to know whether she is receptive or not; when in doubt, play it respectfully UNSAFE. Placing a hand on/behind her shoulder is always the first step.
When you pull her to the dancefloor.. man that part isnt worth intellectualizing, just go with what feels good and again, respectfully unsafe.
When you direct approach on the dance floor, fucking stop; DONT direct approach on the dance floor, fucking DANCE on the dance floor! Let loose and feel the music. Of course, it doesnt hurt to pick a spot with favorable m/f ratios.. but building energy/rapport on the dance floor takes more time. If you see potential interest, polarize over the course of a song or two. Dubstep shows are GREAT because the music creates and releases tension beautifully; SHARE that tension with those around you, and they'll get in on that same energy. Do you kinda know what I mean with this?
Bring no expectations except to have fun with yourself and the music. Again. BRING NO EXPECTATIONS EXCEPT TO HAVE FUN WITH YOURSELF AND THE MUSIC. Drill that into your head. You mentioned hooking up/pulling. If you bring that expectation in, the thirst/hunger will ooze through and repel people away. Realistically, good pick up takes quite a bit of practice and social calibration, as well as a bit of positional luck, i.e. favorable singles actually happened to show up. But the best practice you get is when you go out there with that mentality because nothing can kill your fun. Without it, you make yourself vulnerable to your own negative emotions spoiling the night for yourself, a few rejections could spiral you downward. Has happened to me twice. Both times I drank too much. Fun attracts fun man, your fun needs to be invincible so protect it with appropriate expectation. Expect nothing but to PUSH yourself with each interaction more and more out of your comfort zone.
In general, with bass shows, yes you will get the general club girl crowd, but also those who sought the music specifically, and they're a fun bunch man. It's like they're wanting to be someone else for a night. Be your fun self, and you can be a part of that experience for them.
This is a lot, so TL;DR.. Minimal inebriation, lower your expectation, dont be shy, polarize and escalate, and take advantage of the tension dubstep makes to connect with the cuties.
Seddit doesn't care about your outcome, only want to know that your process is on point. And please, HAVE FUN WITH THE PROCESS. You'll find little success in pickup without that.
So yea have fun tomorrow, drop a FR if you care to
[–]Jonnywhoop 1 point2 points3 points 7 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
You know how to party
[–]KindlyVivid 1 point2 points3 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Dont know what OP is working with so I put a lot out there.. but a wall of text, no matter how big, can never substitute for experience
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This reply is way better than the other replies FYI hope you follow this. The dude who says "just have fun and enjoy yourself and they will come to you" doesn't know shit because that never fucking happens at clubs. Small parties of 10-20 people, sure, not at more public events though.
[–]suscribednowhere 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Isn't it too loud to communicate?
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