The psychology of seduction | Raj Persaud | TEDxUniversityofBristol

hunterpua · 2019-02-05T22:37:34+00:00

His message is sound and I'd read his book to see if he actually has more meaningful stuff to talk about.

But if I were to judge his understanding of seduction purely on this speech then I'd say he needs to do way more research before he goes and writes books on the topic.

He hit on a key element with the first thing he talked about, disagreeing first and then agreeing makes the woman feel like she won you over and as they saw from the results of the experiment it makes her perceive you as more attractive.

His points about Tinder and quick sex are also quite valid.

However, with his example about Casanova he does not actually describe a complete seduction but rather just the first stage of one.

The most "filling the unmet need" will get you with consistency is people wanting relationships with you.

Whether it will turn into a sexual relationship or even a business relationship as he talks about is still a big maybe.

What you're likely to get with a high level of consistency when all you do is "fill the unmet need" is platonic relationships.

Essentially friendships.

For a complete seduction you can actually do way less of "filling the unmet need".

What he says is that you should fill it more than anyone else can.

What you actually need to do for just first stage of a seduction is just fill the unmet need generally.

It can be as simple as if she's bored then be fun.

Or if we use his example about the girl who sucks at pronouncing the letter "R", simply alluding to the fact that you know someone who has a solution to that problem is enough.

Or if you were Casanova himself then you can simply state to her that you're are quite interested in her case and it makes you toy with the idea of writing a play without any R's.

That's all you need to do because that alone does not seal the deal, that only establishes what you need for the first stage of a seduction.

That stage is showing that you have the kind of value to offer that she wants.

If you want to ensure a high likelihood that you complete the seduction then as soon as she sees that you have value to offer, you pull away or give her an indication that she'll have to work to get that value from you.

Casanova could have sealed the deal that night that he met her had he said to her, "You know your story is really interesting and as a play-write I can't help but toy with the idea of creating a play for you without any R's...but I don't know you that well and I don't know if you're someone I'd enjoy working with."

If you've followed seduction advice for a while you may have heard of a technique called "Disqualification".

I just gave you an example of how to use that technique properly.

After Casanova says that it will make the girl feel like her opportunity to acquire that value that he offers is slipping away from her which will make her want to prove that she would be good to work with and that will also make her want to work to get Casanova more acquainted with her.

She will essentially be trying to win him over.

Just like the disagree-agree example.

All Casanova needs to do is prompt her to work more and more for his approval and the harder she works, the more attractive she will perceive him to be.

And then Casanova should gradually shift things so that his line of questioning would move from assessing whether she would be good to work with to whether she would be good to have sex with or be in a romantic relationship with.

And she would have ended up basically chasing him all the way to sex.

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Casanova was never the greatest seducer to ever live. He was the greatest pursuer to ever live.

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This part is for everyone reading this comment

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So I've put together a Telegram group for you guys that want to improve your dating lives and want to actually understand the psychology behind our interactions with not only women but with ourselves and people in general.

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Kenic_In_MD · 2019-02-05T22:54:43+00:00

I'm gonna get his book, this sounds great. Makes sense too, very similar of stuff I read in the art of seduction as well.

Title	The psychology of seduction \| Raj Persaud \| TEDxUniversityofBristol
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