How to deal with girl thinking I'm "moving too fast"

rebuildingMyself · 2015-02-18T08:28:11+00:00

Ignore it and keep going. Back off when she puts up an anti-slut shield (but back off completely).

[deleted] · 2015-02-18T10:08:34+00:00

What she's saying is, "you're too beta for me to be comfortable with you moving this fast."

Like /u/rebuildingMyself said, keep going. She's trying to place you in her comfy "nice guy"/orbiter role. Don't let her see you as one of those chumps.

vandaalen · 2015-02-18T13:00:21+00:00

How old are you and how old is she? If you are both older than 16, then fuck this shit.

Occupying your time, energy and ressources is women's way of fucking you. So how many times have you been fucked by her, without fucking her yourself? Are you a time-hoe? Are you a slut?

She's also testing if she can manipulate you by refusal of intimacy. Don't let yourself be drawn into her frame and don't hand the lever to her.

You've got no time for that bullshit and you are not looking for another platonic friend. If you need a new friend, you'll choose a man at the gym, and not some illoyal hamster.

Apply some dread game. Become unavailable. Ignore calls and take one to two days to reply to texts and keep them really short. Don't give proper reason if she asks. Only something along "Was busy." Do this for at least two weeks and don't meet her in person. Then set up a new date and try to escalate. If it doesn't work, start over and extend the period. Next if she isn't able to comply at all. Not worth the struggle. There is a new bitch waiting for you at the next light post.

secret_barber · 2015-02-18T14:25:12+00:00

I've been on a few dates with says she thinks I want to "move too fast."

Moving to fast in what regard?

She is refusing sex? That is a clear next - she is not worth the investment she is demanding.

Is she refusing a commitment? She's right and you are insane to pressure commitment.

[deleted] · 2015-02-18T14:37:54+00:00

"moving too fast" is womanese for "I'm not very attracted to you"

The correct way to defuse this is agree and amplify: "I agree. I have a strict rule of no kissing until the 18th date"

And to escalate with actions and slow with words: "I think we should slow down (as you start taking off her shirt)

kingofpoplives · 2015-02-18T16:11:35+00:00

girl I've been on a few dates with says she thinks I want to "move too fast."

Has she given you anything sexually yet? If a girl doesn't want to fuck on the first date that's one thing, if she isn't putting out by the third that is a far different matter.

actions speak louder than words

Her attraction is probably low.

So should I just ignore her and move on?

Probably.

Title	How to deal with girl thinking I'm "moving too fast"
Author	the_field_reporter
Upvotes	2
Comments	6
Date	February 18, 2015 7:29 AM UTC (11 years ago)
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