One of those unfuck my life threads

JustACrosshair_ · 2015-03-01T06:28:06+00:00

Okay, you need focus on alcoholism first. You aren't going to get shit done while the bottle fucks with your hormones and brain chemicals. That is priority over even the credit card debt. Find a group, get a therapist, go cold turkey, do whatever the fuck you feel you need to do to rid yourself of that dependency because it will bar you from any other improvement until you do.

Simultaneously fix sleeping and eating habits. Eat properly, meat and veggies heavy, bread and fruit light, take a fucking multi.

Focus on getting that shit down and just surviving the next 3-6 months. You aren't going to fix yourself overnight, but the world is not going to sit still for you while you try. So give yourself time, but hold yourself accountable. You aren't going to quit drinking the first time you try, but log down in a note book why you fucked up. Log each and every time you fail and each time you succeed.

You can get out of your hole if do everything you are not doing now. Don't wallow about how much of a fuck up you are either it does nothing, not to sound harsh, you really need to consciously be aware of those thoughts, and put them away. Deal with what is in front of you, and your biggest problem is health.

Notmalize your health and your addictions and you might be able to trust your internal decision maker a bit better in the future.

I am sorry you are in such a shitty spot, but I believe you can fix it if you keep moving. Don't stop to cry.

Get the basics nailed down, stay alive, come back soon.

[deleted] · 2015-03-01T07:37:03+00:00

can't get a job

Yes, you can. That's always #1. Career is your foundation.

You can't go through the next 40 years unemployed, depressed and useless just because you messed up a bit in your late twenties.

Stop drinking. Get a job. Take 10mg of adderall or something if you need to be upbeat and confident during the interview.

Try journaling on a daily basis. You force yourself to type out least a dozen paragraphs every day. If nothing comes to mind you just type, "I have nothing to say. I have nothing to say." over and over until it flows. It won't take long, you're a smart guy.

Some of the stuff that comes out might shock you.

Finally, self-forgiveness. You need to forgive yourself for the mistakes you've made. That's where all healing begins.

RedPillAlternator · 2015-03-01T14:10:45+00:00

If you don't mind sharing, what was your previous profession? I have known a few MD's who lost their licenses that were able to still make bank even though they couldn't practice anymore.

midnightbean · 2015-03-01T07:49:27+00:00

I only like to offer personal advice, helpful to maybe a small sliver of your problem. Id say work at improving all aspects of your life as much as possible that you know you have your shit together and you know nobody else could doubt it either. Believe and act to what you picture yourself being and you will eventually.

millerhighlifelight · 2015-03-01T11:29:51+00:00

i'm not going to be nice - i have had to claw my way up from the bottom, i come from bad stock and had no one to help me in life. how i am not a homicidal maniac is a miracle. i want to punch your head in. if i were you i would go to your family and admit how much of a douche you are, take a year off living with them to get started on the red pill methodologies (diet, lifting, plate spinning, reading) and youll be ready. asshole

oldredder · 2015-03-01T20:41:51+00:00

There is no right direction.

You're done.

Maybe someone can do a reality TV show on you and that will pay you money.

Some people are meant to drown.

Title	One of those unfuck my life threads
Author	millerhighlifelight
Upvotes	1
Comments	15
Date	March 1, 2015 5:57 AM UTC (11 years ago)
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