So, disclaimer, I don't do this stuff for sex and I never will. I, oddly enough, hate hooking up with girls the first time I meet them. I'm all for a FWB that I have a friendly connection with and like as a person, but I see no benefit in having sex with somebody the first time I meet them when I barely know them. Too many risks, as well, as opposed to a FWB or GF you get tested with and have an agreement on an abortion or something.

ANYWAY MOVING ON, I met up with this girl about 7 months ago, met her through Instagram lol, she's insanely beautiful. She invited me to her place to meet and hangout. We had been talking for like, a month but I genuinely could not find time for her until I finally could. So we meet up, and it's fine. We seem to hit it off, we're both so relaxed and chill together, we smoke weed, watch a bit of a show, we cuddle, and we makeout, talk about each other, and the conversation was so natural and good. We even got deep at times, it was great. I leave eventually, I give her a kiss goodbye and we're both really happy it seems. I text her and say I had a great time and we should do it again, she agreed, sends me a kissy emoji and we're off.

After that day, she doesn't ghost me, but her replies are SHORT and I just don't get it, she's not very receptive to hanging out either, and BEFORE we met we had a great time texting each other. So I call it a write off and move on to other girls.

NOW, I swipe on her on Tinder and we're chatting again. She asks me what's up and I tell her I'm writing her a song to serenade her outside of her house, and then I ask what she's up to, she says "lmao cuuute, i'm rolling a joint"

I liked her comment on Tinder and left it at that for now.

My belief for her ghosting me was because OBVIOUSLY she invited me over to fuck me, and we hit it off well enough that I would have, but there were no condoms, no lube, nothing to use to fuck, and I'm not about to fuck somebody I JUST met raw, no matter how hot they are. I think she ghosted me because she wanted sex and didn't get it, but now I just wonder why she's connecting with me again?

I regret not fucking her honestly, because I fully expected us to hangout again based on how well it went, and I'd definitely fuck her and come prepared if I went over there now, but I really just don't know how to play my cards.

I am very outcome independent about this, so I'm pretty much willing to say anything lol. I was thinking about simply straight up being like "wanna hangout again" and then if she says no, cool, if she doesn't say anything, cool, if she says yes, cooler.

This was a bit of a ramble, but yeah, does anyone know the purpose of a girl who basically ghosts you, and then reconnects later? Maybe she's over my lack of initiative to fuck her and wants to try again, who knows?