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[–]zincSF 2 points3 points4 points 7 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Sounds risky to me. Could be viewed (even if she is legally an adult) as "improper" because of work/power relationships. Game outside of all social/work circles, is the best advice.
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[–]zincSF 1 point2 points3 points 7 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
From what I can tell you have no IOI's from her at all yet. So you are nowhere here except fantasy-land.
If you want to pursue, do it simply and directly to expedite. At some point when alone, just say "hey I find you really attractive". Then immediately say something else about her (stack), for example "you are so bright and so confident", or whatever, it can be virtually anything, but importantly something to soften the direct compliment and something for her to respond to. And see what happens from there. Odds are high your fantasy will be pretty crushed within 3-4 minutes. But at least you gave it a shot. I don't like indirect in this situation, she will assume you are the "friendly professor" and you'll waste time and eventually confuse her if/when you try to change the frame.
[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 7 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
This reminds me of the episode of Friends where Ross’s student has a crush on Ross. Unfortunately for you, you are the one crushing. I wouldn’t put your job at jeopardy.
[–]piggybridges 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Assuming she's not 'into you' already, and you're pretty sure she is (in which case, you just ask her out) you'd need to MAKE her into you. Basically, seduce her. (Although whether that's possible or not is a hot debate on seddit. Most agree she's either into you or she's not and you can't effect that)
[–]OnixPrime 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (9 children) | Copy Link
Ask her out. If she finds you fit she will say yes if not you will be considered a creep.
Not really worth the risk imo.
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[–]OnixPrime 1 point2 points3 points 7 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
You're overthinking it. Ask yourself what is so special about her that you're this invested already? just be direct, if she's worth it to you. This beating around the bush will get you nowhere.
[–]anon1moos 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
If asking her out would be inappropriate, then this is your answer.
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[–]anon1moos 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
There are plenty of situations where asking someone out isn’t “inappropriate” if they aren’t interested. I’d argue it wouldn’t have been completely inappropriate to make some kind of overture, even as far as asking her out, face to face. I’d say your window for not being a creep has closed. If you don’t mind being a creep, and possibly having this damage your professional reputation, then by all means, sally forth.
[–]anon1moos 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
If she’s not receptive, I think the chance that the gossip would stay confined to a small group of students is practically 0. These students would almost certainly let the word out to their professors.
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