I do not understand abundance mentality

easternbarnowl · 2019-05-11T23:37:39+00:00

So I’ve had thoughts similar to this as well and this is the conclusion I have come to:

It comes down to not giving a girl everything right when you meet her. Let’s say you meet someone you feel you have a connection with. You shouldn’t just go all in. You should give it time and see if it develops. You should still be willing to go out and meet other women while you’re seeing the person you feel you have a connection with. Ultimately women decide yes or no to make things official, so until then you shouldn’t really go all in because it hurts like a bitch if you do and she doesn’t reciprocate.

So by having the willingness to meet other people while you’re seeing someone else, whom you don’t have an official relationship with already, you have abundance mentality in the sense that “I’m not going to give you all of me until you show me you do as well, meanwhile I’ll keep scouting”

2019-05-12T05:47:18+00:00

At the end of the day, no matter how you shine it up. We are driven by sticking our dick in something. I think we should stop trying to trivialize how important that is. Notice how women hold their sexuality in high regard, even if they are being slutty and just wanting to get laid, or seeking a husband. I think dudes should start to adapt that.
Maturity will eventually reveal that you don't know shit about a person to maybe 1.5 years into dating them. So this idea that your superficial on the face "connection" means something is you fooling yourself. Either you are in a relationship....or you are not. If you are not, then you are dating without exclusivity and should do so until someone makes it clear they want to be in a relationship and you want the same. It's like a good golf swing, you swing thorough first contact with the ball, you drive past that first contact. Imagine if you stopped your swing the moment you made good contact.
Chances are your girlfriend is nothing special. I mean, unless you marry her....there will be another "her" before you settle down. Relationships are much more technical than that, I don't necessarily need to fool myself in believing that my GF is some magical unicorn in order to have a healthy relationship.

ProudRamboBSNS · 2019-05-12T13:12:06+00:00

If you are abundant by default, then that's great. It's just a state that it's good to be in.

When to use it? When "the one" starts walking over you. You point out her behaviour and make her feel like you're gonna walk if she keeps it up. If she knows and feels your abundance, she will go to being more loving and caring.

You have to flip the script in terms of what you think having abundance mentality is about. It's not about how you perceive women. It's about how women perceive you.

It doesn't mean you have to go fuck other women constantly, or whenever any sort of drama enters your relationship with "the one" you're supposed to drop her, next her (relationships are hard work, yeah, they're like a part time job, but if the drama ever feels like too much and for bullshit reasons, please make sure she doesn't have one of the narcissistic personality disorders).

It means you're the guy who CAN do that. You're perceived as a guy who can have any girl he wants.

If you are, or at least consistently behave like a true alpha, there will be very little reason for a woman to drop you.

When you're in a relationship, your abundance mentality is in benefit for HER, not for you. SHE NEEDS you to be the man. To her it means "he can have anyone, he will not let me walk over him, he will not let me interrupt him on his journey towards his goals, I will love him, care for him and support him so that he chooses ME to be the mother of his children. I will only put on drama if I feel like he needs to step it up and I know he will get what I'm going at, pick up his game and most importantly, put me in my place if he has to. I am to be the feminine part of this relationship, whose supposed to be beautiful, bubbly, loving, caring, satisfying being and I don't have to worry about anything else, because I know my man will get it done. I can rely on him to be the masculine energy in this relationship."

Get it? You being abundant is part of what makes her the submissive, completely feminine part of a relationship. It's not just about your ability to have anyone and to fuck 10 different girls in a week. It's about the whole OVERALL LIFE MENTALITY you build around it!

Title	I do not understand abundance mentality
Author	Redditredditr260
Upvotes	5
Comments	6
Date	May 11, 2019 10:42 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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