How do i stop imaginary conversations?

FinnianWhitefir · 2015-03-16T18:43:49+00:00

I did some therapy and it really helped with this and my social anxiety. It took a objective skilled psychologist to help me dig down and realize that I had this "If I fail or say something wrong, this person will dislike/hate me, then they will attack/ignore me". This happened to me a lot in childhood/teen years, so I learned the best way to avoid this was to pre-plan all my conversations and spend a lot of time in them trying to manage "What should I say, how will they interpret it, what are they trying to say when they say that, etc". Just realizing the root cause of all this helped me get over it, as it seems really ridiculous when you are an adult looking at it in the light of day.

Try to figure out if this is just daydreaming and hopeful and good, or if this is avoidant, I.E. "I better prepare for this so I don't fail".

TheBloodIsRed · 2015-03-16T14:12:51+00:00

This happens to me too. If I know I should be working and catch myself doing it I just get back to work. I find it useful sometimes when you are driving or at the gym, though. I see it as a way of reflecting on what you said and learning from it. You also may find a better way to phrase something for future use.

MorePancakes · 2015-03-16T14:33:42+00:00

This is my entire life when I'm alone... and I live alone...

cock_pussy_up · 2015-03-16T15:04:41+00:00

Having imaginary conversations can be helpful sometimes. For example, say you have a job interview. You can try to guess what they're going to ask, and think up good answers. You don't know exactly what they'll say, but it might help you. Kind of like practicing for a sports game.

machimus · 2015-03-17T21:03:05+00:00

You go all Walter Mitty meng? Just be mindful of when you're doing it and chastise yourself to focus. Eventually the self correction will become habit.

KillYourselfLiving · 2015-03-16T23:44:56+00:00

Never let your thoughts wander. Concentrate on the task at hand with your full libido.

You might say, but what if I don't have a task to do at that particular moment... well boy, always have something that requires your full focus.

If you catch your thought drifting away immediately get back on track and FOCUS on important things, not on your rainbow & sunshine dreamworld.

Read this, print this out if possible. https://i.imgur.com/grqGb9B.jpg

And always ask yourself "What is the best use of my time right now?" Is it dreaming or is it improving yourself?

Title	How do i stop imaginary conversations?
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Date	March 16, 2015 1:00 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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