Too needy?

warm_theory · 2019-06-20T18:49:03+00:00

I think what's happening is that girls are feeling really uncomfortable and just lay out a fake number or give their real number and don't connect because they're probably fearful at that moment and just want to get out of it asap.

Go out alone our with other people.

hunterpua · 2019-06-20T19:02:02+00:00

Try to talk to him first before you decide to stop doing daygame with him.

If he doesn't listen to constructive criticism then its best to stop hanging out with this guy.

Now as far as what he does when he approaches girls, whether he's needy or not depends on how he puts his arms around these girls.

If he does it tentatively and almost as if he's saying, "please let me put my arm around you" then yes, he's beeing needy as hell.

But if its more dominant and he just straight up does it like its the most normal thing in the world, its something else.

If its the latter then he's just being very direct.

Now here's the problem, the more direct you are, the less women you find who will reciprocate.

I mean what are the odds that you'll just happen to approach a woman who is already attracted or horny enough to fall into your arms within the first 10-20 seconds?

Not to mention she has to be crazy enough to feel comfortable with a total stranger within that time frame.

So the odds are really low.

And here's another problem, if that's his only move then its almost guaranteed that girls will flake.

He'd have better luck trying to take the girl home with him directly after putting his arms around her.

The reason for this is because he is relying purely on women's excitement.

That is, if he finds a girl who will actually enjoy him doing that, the only thing he's doing to affect her is making her really excited.

If he gets her number and leaves guess what, he'll no longer be there to excite her with his crazy antics.

She'll go back to whatever she was doing for the day.

And since it sounds like he barely even has conversations with girls, they really wont have much to remember him by.

So his entire effect on women fades very quickly.

The text game from that point on should basically be like starting a conversation from scratch on Tinder or cold messaging someone on social media.

But I'm guessing he does more of an acting-like-she's-so-into-him style of messaging.

Remember, on the other end of the line, hours or even days after they met, she won't be going, "Oh my god, that guy who put his arm around me who I know nothing about was so dreamy"

She would be more realistically thinking, "So I need to wash that turtleneck, and the blazer, and the sun dress..."

Or, "So I need to get dog food, toilet paper, milk..."

Or she could be thinking, "I can't wait to get to the bar and just chill out with my girls..."

Or whatever!

The point is, most girls wont be reliving that moment he created with them the very second he texts them.

And they probably wont be in an excited state either.

Plus, when they see his text and struggle to remember who it is because he barely talks to them it'll dawn on them that he was just a random stranger.

So he's playing a really shitty numbers game.

If he does it enough times and he could get laid.

But he'll have to go through a shit ton of rejections first.

And he'll go through another shit ton of rejections before he fucks the girl after that.

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Title	Too needy?
Author	[deleted]
Upvotes	0
Comments	4
Date	June 20, 2019 6:28 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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