Doesn't Briffault's Law prove women have all the power in relationships?

imaterriblelurker · 2015-03-25T10:48:00+00:00

You are in control of the choices you make. The validity and motivations of those choices are subject to society at large.

Inspect your motivations and how they affect your social life. If all you care about it sex, then sex is all you will get. There is a subconcious level to humans of each gender. Some seek validation, some seek enrichment. You seek validation in the form of sex. You think attracting women will validate you. What you crave is a step-by-step buide on how to do this. I can give this to you now.

1: Get a gym membership and actually GO there. Start lifting and cardio.

2: Improve your diet. Water does wonders for the skin.

3: Dress better.

4: Visit a proper hairsalon and get some quality hair products as well as a cut that suits your face.

5: Indulge in your hobbies, take a 6 month break from dating and spend your time on your hobbies.

6: Spend time on YOU. You may not be the maincharacter in someone elses life, but you can be the main character in your own life.

7: Ask for help when it is needed. Offer to help others. Humanity would not have succeeded if not for our need to help other humans.

8: Women are just as shallow, vain and terrible as men are. It's because they are human. They kill, maim and hurt others because they are human, not because they are women. They are not special. Realise this and you will be able to get friends, colleagues and relationships.

notmyusualreddit · 2015-03-25T10:38:35+00:00

It applies both ways. If you lost all hope shed ever have sex with you, or became so ugly you didn't even want her and didn't believe she'd change, you would leave her too (unless state mandated splitting up costs were scaring you). We just want different things. Guys want sex. Girls want things and feelings, and that makes them want to have sex with you naturally and sometimes as an exchange too.

vandaalen · 2015-03-25T11:50:24+00:00

Being in control is an illusion and a feeling you experience when everything is going the way you want it to go according to your ego.

The only thing you can control is yourself and your actions.

You will never be in control of a relationship, but you will be in control of yourself. One can only execute power over you if you deliberatly allow that person to do so or if that person has got a lever to do so. By depriving that lever, in this case using outcome independence and abundance mentality, you withdraw the power from that person.

So by controlling yourself you also deny people to have power over you and Briffault's law nor any other law changes anything to that.

bustanutmeow · 2015-03-25T09:42:39+00:00

You are in control of the choice of being in the relationship, So you can use that as leverage combined with your SMV and maintain command of the relationship. At least that is how I would look at it.

RPthrowaway123 · 2015-03-25T11:21:02+00:00

The submissive ultimately has control in any relationship, because they can draw the line wherever they want. That doesn't mean they will exercise it.

Stories_of_Red · 2015-03-25T14:00:26+00:00

No, because males can exit a relationship too. But if you start examining how the divorce laws and, now, revised rape claim treatment by society, are implemented (ignore the gender neutral language, focus on how the rules are applied), you start to see that society is trying to hem in a man's agency, to make the decision regarding relationship a unilateral one, held primarily by women.

kingofpoplives · 2015-03-25T15:38:27+00:00

No.

All it means is that nothing a man did for a woman in the past can secure her loyalty. Women stick around in a relationship because of current and future benefits. Past benefits rendered mean nothing.

If you want to retain some level of control, keep dangling a carrot in that never-quite-arriving future.

DrRehabMonsterReborn · 2015-03-25T15:41:05+00:00

This is not true. I can provide an example. My cousin has slept with between 40 and 50 women. When he is in a relationship he cares less about the girl than they do him. His current girlfriend comes over, cleans up for him. Cleans the bathroom for him, and she is hot, like a 9. Another cousin of mine who has slept with I don't know how many girls has had girls that have needed to go and see therapists after they broke up. Both of them sleep with other girls on the side, their girlfriends don't know. I'm no player, but the girl I saw in highschool for a couple of months had to drop out because when we ended it, it really messed her up.

Sure they can cheat, but so can you.
People are getting weak morally these days. Both grandparents on my fathers and mothers sides of the family have been together for 50+ years. They stuck to the commitment they had made. I'm not saying people are not going to cheat, I'm just saying that people are becoming morally weak today.

Title	Doesn't Briffault's Law prove women have all the power in relationships?
Author	AllOrDeath
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Date	March 25, 2015 9:35 AM UTC (11 years ago)
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