I've been seeing a girl which I've been considering committing to. I've made plenty of mistakes but she's sticking around, and for the most part things are Ok. A few red flags here and there but I'm also somewhat paranoid and tend to overthink things. I do trust my gut though.

My troubles are not with orbiters per say but.. Something in the back of my mind says she's overly into attention from guys. When I'm with her this is not an issue at all.

So. At a few points after I sort of made it open that I have trouble trusting her she's offered to "show me her messages" which i declined because I didn't think that would change much. Is this a valid way to see what's going on in the background? How else could I test her? Things like sending nudes to other guys would simply tell me to continue having fun with this girl but not consider an LTR.

I have seen her delete messages and snapchat a few guys which she knew before me - including an ex that seems to pop up every so often. (She doesn't talk to me about him but I know it's something in her head, and I am unsure if I should approach this - I figure asking questions is pointless as she will just say what's necessary.)