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[–]felipefig100 5 points6 points7 points 7 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
let her dictate the pace of the relationship man just enjoy what you got. im in the same situation i do want something serious. and it feels serious. i spend the night, we go out, we do bf/gf stuff but she said she wants to take it slow. Just say yes to that and things will gradually get more serious trust me
[–]sagehippieone 4 points5 points6 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This!!! Yes. As a woman, I can verify... let her take the lead on how fast this moves and where this is going, especially after only 3 months. Good luck with your new job, focus on that, your other feiends and hobbies, and in time if she wants you she will reveal her feelings at an appropriate time for Her.
[–]tigermax42 4 points5 points6 points 7 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Just hang in there man and keep being awesome with her. If you remain dominant and give her just the right amount of space she won’t go looking elsewhere
[–]sagehippieone 1 point2 points3 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Exactly!!
[–]Redditaspropaganda 2 points3 points4 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
expectations low, keep doing what you're doing. also see other women or atleast engage with other women to keep your options open and less committed.
[–]WeakEmu8 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Focus on your job, don't let this hookup mess that up. Enjoy it for what it is, not more.
Can't make a purse out of a sows ear
[–]AllFunLife-com 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
There’s 7.7 billion people on this planet, some of us want the same things, some of us want different things. A huge secret of life is to attract to us the people who want the same things as we want, not turn the people in front of us into what we want. In this case you both wanted some of the same things, friendship, hook up, etc. If you’ve had a clear conversation sharing what you want and she’s shared what she wants and it’s different, just play it out until it’s no longer fun for you, and at the same time I would start approaching/setting up some dates with other girls who may want the same things as you. Here’s some day game approaches for you for inspiration. https://youtu.be/O7FjUxpCyoU Either way it’s all good, she’ll either decide she wants the same as you, or you’ll attract someone who does.. sending you positive vibes bro!
[–]trippie_blu3 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
go with the flow --im seriously telling you from experience. I dated a woman who felt strongly about me but due to the fact i wanted to be in a serious committed relationship with her and she wasnt ready for something so serious it screwed things up and now we no longer speak which sucks because i know we would have been a great fucking couple if things were slow and werent rushed. good luck :)
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