So I setup my Tinder profile recently and uploaded my four best pictures (All in the action photos,A photo with friends and no selfies etc) and within 48 hours I had a handful of contacts on what’s app and had 4 dates lined up for Mon,Tues,Wed,Thur.

Now my question here is that three of the four dates (One was 6/10 the other 8/10 and one 9/10) seemed to give off disappointed/friend vibes when meeting in person ? Or simply gave no indication that they were attracted to me.

Now I will admit that although some aspects of myself have improved greatly (Text game,Eye contact,Feeling relaxed during the date etc) I am still very much stuck in the “Interview-esq” type role during dates where we just indulge in general conversation. I feel maybe I am a bit “too” calm and relaxed during the dates and anytime I try to change the pace and talk about more sexualised topics they just fizzle out and the girls didn’t seem all that interested.

The date which did go well was a 7/10 and this went well because I got the vibe she was interested in me sexually and she was the one who actually initiated the physical contact.

I never got those vibes from the other dates I went on. Now is this because of my lack of intent and my too chilled approach or is it because they are disappointed when seeing me in person?

The reason I think this may be to do with my appearance and not my actions is because I stated up Tinder again and added a couple of natural photos (selfies) along with my best photos and didn’t have no where near the level of success. Some even matched and then unmatched straight afterwards.

This has lead me to question whether it is worth putting out this awesome persona and pictures if they feel a little disappointed when they see you in person?

I feel like I am now heading into dates with hotter women with this negativity on my mind pre date.

So to summarise...Tinder game is good, text game is good, actual dating game is pretty poor! But is the lack of good dating experiences my lack of intent and physicality or because my pictures are maybe too good ? (As stupid as that sounds)

As a side note the 9/10 invited me straight to her house for a first date for (drinks and chat) but as I get inside the door I sit on the large sofa and she sits across from me on a single chair sofa. How the hell do you even attempt to escalate things physically with that much distance between you ? Or was this a early sign that I was doomed from the start ? She has actually said she would like to see me again so I have no idea....