TLDR—-Dumped after sex

I would like to say please read this in full because right now I am pretty devastated by this and could massively use your advice (although the story may seem funny) the pain is real lol.

Ok guys, I have posted here before talking about my dating disasters but I have just had my soul and ego absolutely shattered into pieces.

Before you continue let me assure you that this girl was the one who was invested, I didn’t come across as needy EVER, she would message me everyday and establish contact, I was just enjoying life and her company once a week when I had the time and we would meet up for a date.

So...

I started dating a girl from tinder 6 weeks ago, she was quite intense and extremely interested and after the first date she was planning trips away,nights away in hotels, bands to see, walking our dogs together the whole package. During these six weeks I would get texts like “I miss your face” “My clothes smell of you” all positive sweet stuff.

We both made fun out of the fact that we hadn’t slept with each other after our second date and it became like a ongoing game to see how long we could last, which actually built the sexual tension between us to a huge level. I was actually leading this and could have slept with her a lot sooner.

By date three she was struggling to resist the temptation for us to sleep together and started having doubts that I actually fancied her. It actually felt satisfying not giving in to her demands for validation and doing it when I wanted too.

Date Five (last Friday) she invited me to her place, candles lit,clothes of choice and underwear selected by me, we chilled listened to music and she was planning for us to have a night out at a cocktail bar and booking a hotel for the night. That same evening we ended up sleeping together. I genuinely felt the sex was pretty good and she used words like “I’m spent” “My legs are like jelly” blah blah blah, so I didn’t have any concerns that the sex was awful at all.

She had originally asked me to stay that night but prior commitments meant I couldn’t and so I drove home.

On the drive home I got a text which basically said “Thanks for coming over, I hope I was a good host 😉 xx”

Instantly I thought “Hmmm that’s not quite what I was expecting 🤔”

I replied with a basic text of “ I had a good night, I hope you sleep well x”

Next day (Saturday) she texts me as normal and even started teasing me about “behaving with other girls when I go out tonight”

She had pre arranged a night out with her best friend of 23 years (Which I was already aware of) I also did the same and went out on Saturday night with my friends.

She posted a photo of her and her friend on the train home to her Facebook from their night out (Incase you think another guy was involved here,I am basically 99.99% certain that there wasn’t)

Sunday nothing...

I messaged her at 6pm (First time I had initiated contact during the entire time we’ve been chatting, maybe 6 weeks +) I asked her how the night out went and she seemed totally fine but was busy at her parents having dinner and said she would message me later...

Nothing...

Monday nothing...

I asked her if she was ok and boom received this

Hello you! Sorry.. just been distracted with stupid wrist pain but I have been thinking lots about our past few dates and seeing each other and I’m not entirely sure that we have enough in common to progress it any further. I have really enjoyed getting to know you but I’m not sure that it’s a long term thing. I have been thinking about it loads and I hope you do understand as you’re a great guy and make me laugh lots! Sorry if this has come a bit out of the blue but I just wanted to be completely honest and upfront with you. I hope everything gets sorted with your flat mate. Take care you xx

I was absolutely gobsmacked and broken to be honest but I simply replied “No worries, take care” I wanted to ask a million questions but it’s game over at this point.

Did I build the sex up too much ?

Was it simply shit sex ?

Could it be there was not much in common and my lack of interest in doing new things with her ?

Was it over once she got her validation ?

The only positive is I have now joined a gym and feel motivated to improve myself. I have to say though I am totally crushed and confused right now though.