Options past 45?

ninja_possum · 2019-07-29T08:57:41+00:00

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quinnmcd · 2019-07-29T03:51:32+00:00

Idk where you read that at, but they were wrong. Women your age are still out on the prowl. From my experience (I’m only 26 btw) older women are usually found at jazz bars, bars with live music and specific clubs targeted at their age group. Your approach has to be a little different for older women they want you to be very direct. Older women waste very little time and usually know what they want. With younger women you have to game them and spend more time building comfort.

Since you’re divorced I recommend the book No more mr nice guy. It’s talks about the influences that led to deep-rooted issues that makes men fails with relationships. It can be quite life changing if you do the exercises.

_Ravens_Wing_ · 2019-07-29T14:50:08+00:00

I doubt that you’re game is over. I divorced at 40 and am in a happy, committed relationship with a man six months my senior, but would have been open to dating someone your age if the stars had aligned. Just be yourself, put yourself out there, take some time to develop an online profile... it all depends on whether or not your job and lifestyle take you to places where you might meet someone organically. If not, online is the way to go IMO. Put some effort into a bio, lay out what you have to offer, what you’re looking for in a relationship, and be sincere. I can sniff out the guys who self-aggrandize from a mile away, and it’s a huge turn off to me. I can only speak for myself, but I was looking for someone who enjoyed the simple pleasures but was adventurous enough to try creating new, worthwhile memories together. No need for bragging about being a world traveler or how you can deadlift 250 lbs or anything like that. I think it’s much sexier and more appealing to find someone who can admit that they’re lonely, that they want companionship, who expresses themself well, and who puts emphasis on being open to putting in the effort to make a new relationship safe, secure, and enjoyable for both parties.

int_lab · 2019-07-29T21:25:56+00:00

I wanna give you free coaching, your category is not covered yet.
Message me when ready.

WIA20XX · 2019-07-29T23:07:35+00:00

The same basic seduction rules apply, but instead of EDM festivals, hip hop dance clubs, one dollar beer college night - you are striking up conversations where you fit in.
- wine tastings.
- hotel and restaurant bars.
- more formal dances like salsa.
- museum, gallery openings.
- charity events.

Etc.

What does a social man at 45 do?

You won't be running around campus trying to pick up sorority girls, but the 25 year olds go to dinner too.

As far as online goes, it's tailoring your image to your market. Read the over thirty and over forty dating subs. You'll get a sense of what works and what doesn't.

Seducing is really just having a good conversation. You are moving the girl from emotional state to emotional state, but that is what makes it a good conversation.

Sure words are being said and information is exchanged, but the real communication is nonverbal.

It can be done at any age.

passionlessDrone · 2019-07-30T01:33:22+00:00

Hey buddy. I didn't know shit about gaming women before, and know pretty much nothing now. But I have a very similar profile as you. There are likely geographical differences as I live in a middle sized city, but I bet most of this travels well enough.

Here has been my general experience:

Online is super difficult if you are trying for good looking women. This may not be the case if you are super good looking yourself, but for the most part, hot women are inundated online. I've been on five dates with a cute enough women a few years my senior; she's kept her body in good shape, and can go on four dates a week with new fatheads if she wants. This woman is not hot, but cute and with a good body. She hasn't even tried Tinder and shit, but a paid site, match.com. Most of her choices are awful, of course, but your message to her will be sandwiched between ten messages from other dudes seven days a week. On Tinder, I met a fat, semi-pretty woman ~ 40 that told me she got 90 matches in an hour in my shitty ass town. I met a cute, but fat woman at a party who was 31 and had 900 matches on Tinder in Houston. There is so much hunger out there that any woman is served a buffet of choices. Don't let a lack of success online get to your attitude; treat online as an adjunct to meeting women IRL.
The real world is very difficult to find good looking women that aren't otherwise attached. A slender woman you see IRL is going to be ringed up or 'seeing someone' 9/10 times. Because of that, this sub can kind of drive you fucking crazy; you'll see a field report wherein a guy goes and makes a play on fifteen women in a night. Meanwhile, you go out to where people our age are, and you might see three girls you realistically would considering approaching, and two have rings on. Don't let that get you down. I mean, it's demoralizing as fuck, but nobody going to solve this problem but you, and some sad sack isn't going to solve anything.
Work on approaching in the wild and starting talking to random people and women. It hasn't worked for me yet, but I have met a lot of interesting people, gotten some good stories, and have had several women tell me they appreciated my balls in just going for it. Sooner or later it will work and the feeling of taking some action to try to get there is a billion times better than nights I didn't try anything and went home wondering.
If you are OK dating girls carrying a lot of weight, the world is your oyster. They seem to make up a large percentage of the dating cohort in our age range.
Subs like /r/datingoverthirty are useful. They generally view subs like this as toxic, but it can be good to understand the opinions and feelings of women in our age cohort. A lot of women are jaded as fuck by this time, understanding that and trying not to be the kind of person that might contribute to that may help you connect with a woman.

Shit, as I read this, it doesn't come off as so positive. Maybe it's me.

2019-07-29T14:28:48+00:00

I think it is over at this age, seriously. Women in their 40s don't want 40 yo men online.

Title	Options past 45?
Author	godsresetbutton
Upvotes	8
Comments	12
Date	July 29, 2019 2:35 AM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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