I'm Stuck

RedditArgument · 2015-04-08T07:57:35+00:00

If they force you to apply to religious colleges make a disaster of those applications. Do your 100% best to go to a large public university at least 2 hours from home to justify living on campus. Once you graduate uni who gives a fuck if you're disowned. Make your own way and make sure your parents know they can either accept you or live without you in their lives. You might not even have to make that ultimatum if you live far enough away.

When choosing your uni show your parents a nearby church that you can attend, christian life groups on campus, whatever you need to do to get them comfortable.

Basically make some distance and the rest will sort itself out.

SkorchZang · 2015-04-08T08:18:29+00:00

Here's my take on it dude. It is a danger to your soul, mom's right. But she's wrong about controlling your soul, that she doesn't have a say in.

It is also a very big danger to your soul to allow Mother Dearest to control your soul for you. With all the best intentions, irreparable harm will still be done, because that is not God's way. She will if she's allowed to, like all women, she has "no brakes". Women have trouble dealing with power, once they have power over you, they always become abusive with it. She simply has no say, she is a woman and has no business running her adult son's private life. It's between you and God, He gave you the freedom to make your choices. Your parents' obsessive conservative choices are rare and have a lot of inherent value in the surrounding culture of soul-draining sexual self-destruction, like an oasis with fresh water in the middle of a desert.

But keep in mind, someone can drown themselves in that oasis EASY, if they overdo it with the joyous celebration of the blessed fresh water. Your Mother is overdoing it in my opinion, and not because she's "too controlling" for reddit's refined liberal/satanic tastes, but rather because she does not have the knowledge to understand the purpose behind "soul purity". It's not out there in isolation and if you have it, you're OK, but if not you're damned. You need it for certain things, if you are interested in those specific religious things. Soul purity requirements strongly differ for men and for women, also. Mother is applying girl rules to her golden boy. She ever make you wear little dresses when you were tiny too?

Once you separate yourself from the family nest (ASAP), always hold frame with your mother. You do not answer to her, you do not argue with her, you treat her with love and respect - BUT THEN STILL DO EVERYTHING YOUR WAY. Without notifying her or asking her permission at any step of the way. Her curiosity about what you're doing and how you're holding up will know no bounds, so it's up to you to use charm and misdirection to completely gloss over answering her questions with real answers. Use Agree&Amplify tactics, just with more love than you'd afford to some random bitch. And, it would not be out of place to tease your mother a little, with respect to her doomed attempts to still treat you as her little boy forever when you are already a grown man.

In short, you separate from the family nest, then do what you want, you don't lie to mother, but don't tell her the full story of your life either. She wants to know, tease her. Too bad, you're all grown up now... awwww, still love you mom!

You are not in any conflict with her, she's a very chronically frightened woman in her way, and that's because her man is "absent". Does that to women all the time, they become neurotic and develop psychological tics that cause them to make everyone around them miserable. It's not malicious, it's a woman's helplessness.

Title	I'm Stuck
Author	Redpillhomeschooler
Upvotes	1
Comments	3
Date	April 8, 2015 5:18 AM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/31ubj6/im_stuck/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/askTRP/im-stuck.147736 https://theredarchive.com/post/147736

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