I need.. advice

BlackBookBasics · 2019-09-05T13:57:17+00:00

Honestly, you've lost even before this has started. The key word in your post was "convince". You can't convince her or any girl to do anything. Girl have to come to you on their own. And if they don't, then either you did something to push her away, she didn't like you enough to begin with or she met another guy. But just from what you wrote describing yourself, "i'm a bit of a pussy", "getting anxious", "creeper/clingy". If you don't fix that shit right now, you won't have a chance with her at all.

Stop acting like a pussy and control your emotions. You barely know this girl. Why are you so invested. I can guarantee she's not thinking about you that much if at all, because if she was, she would be texting you a lot. Start dating girls hotter than her. And when you see her again, then let it resume from there. But until then get your emotions in check and stop acting so needy.

smoothmax · 2019-09-05T14:20:05+00:00

When you have a big oneitis crush it sometimes seems like you're betraying her if you chase other girls. But there is practically no other way to break out of the spin cycle of obsessive thoughts which leads to neediness and an inability to put your crush into proper perspective.

Trust me there are MANY hot babes out there. If you're like me, you won't be able to quickly switch gears and start noticing let alone flirting with those other girls. I had to do a lot of remedial work on myself starting with my attitudes (inner game) and habits (outer game) which I practiced first on my family, friends, etc. and only then did I find that I was starting to spark mutual attraction with women. First the women in my social circle who had more or less friendzoned me, then with women that I met.

You're not cutting off your crush, you can still low-key game her at each step as you improve. But I doubt that you'll ever be attractive to her as long as she's the only girl you're practicing your seduction skills on. No matter how special you think your love is, girls usually reject a guy whom their 6th sense tells them has no other dating options.

Title	I need.. advice
Author	Fields_Of_Elysium
Upvotes	0
Comments	3
Date	September 5, 2019 1:11 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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